Marriage (Part 2)

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[00:05] got the people off guard I don't know if we going to get the live streams like we usually do [00:17] but like the sound coming through all [00:28] right alrighty Sabbath peace sabath peace it's another [00:33] opportunity for us to come together and hear and learn of the word of truth that's given to us by the most high God all honor goes to the father through the [00:40] son whose name is yahushua in him lies the only hope for salvation we know that it is obtained by grace through faith [00:47] not of Works lest anyone should boast and given freely as a gift to all who obey him we understand that if you do [00:53] not obey him it is made manifest or made obvious that you do not believe in this [00:59] state you should expect no good thing from the most high however anything that you do get whether it be a gift of tongues a gift of Prophecy or any [01:05] Supernatural experience that you may have it can and it will be used against you in the day of judgment with that [01:11] said Peace to the saints that are in the room to the Saints in the chat to the saints that couldn't make it but no uh [01:17] to the Saints watching in on the camera but no peace to the Wicked the only thing we say to them is repent that they [01:23] might live so let's continue on with our special on uh marriage right at the day [01:30] of atonement um we started to talk about marriage and the importance of marriage [01:35] uh and now after after the uh week of end Gathering the week of Tabernacles we [01:41] want to go ahead and finish that out so let's recap very briefly what you know [01:48] we talked about last time last time we talked a little bit about um you know [01:53] it's good to to be married and the Bible does you know kind of present that to us [01:59] as a very good thing thing um you know he who finds a wife finds a good thing we read all that stuff right but what we [02:06] wanted to do is kind of take a a view that that's not often taught or not often talked about much at least not in [02:13] my purview um we see that you know Paul he went through it and he kind of told [02:19] us like you might be better off being single he gave us his opinion his judgment on the situation he like you [02:25] might be better off remaining single like he was right and instead of going [02:30] to get married you spend more of your time focus on God right he said he's trying to he's trying to prevent us from [02:36] having carefulness and when the book says carefulness it's talking about um it's talking about uh you know being [02:42] worrying so it's like you have less to worry about if you remain single so Paul [02:48] you know we kind of talked through that a little bit we also talked about um the responsibilities right or or not not [02:54] necessarily the responsibility of the individuals but the responsibility of The Vow right so when you make a vow and [03:01] you get married that's a vow to God right so you're making a vow to God and we talked about number 30 how our law [03:09] governs the vow right and how serious that vow is and how that vow had to be [03:16] onto death when it comes to marriage so it's something to consider when you [03:21] before you get married how serious this vow is right if you have an opportunity [03:26] to understand it before you do it then you should understand it consider it and make sure that's really what you want to [03:31] do um then we talked about choosing the spouse right we talked a little bit about uh you know the book our law kind [03:39] of tells us it told a group of women um that they can choose whoever they thought best right for their husbands [03:47] right so now that kind of let us know that it's not it's not something where the man has to choose the husband and [03:53] and a woman don't have a say that's not what the bible teach right it's not something where the woman has to choose [03:58] and the man don't have a say say it's not what the bible teach the bible teach that everybody choose who they want all [04:05] right everybody chooses who they want um and then we talked a little bit about the uh Gentiles because it's always a [04:12] topic amongst the Hebrew Israelites at least that you know oh you shouldn't marry Gentiles you should marry Gentiles [04:18] so we talked a little bit about that about which specific Gentiles right the [04:24] Canaanites the amorites um that the most high God forbid from being uh marit uh [04:31] uh giving in the marriage um and how that kind of relates we looked at some examples we kind of looked at [04:37] yahushua um uh and and how he had Gentiles in his his lineage um and then [04:43] lastly I think we left off with uh understanding the responsibility of that [04:49] that being the head of the woman right so as a husband you're a head of the woman but we talked a little bit about [04:54] how that really just means that everything is your fault right that's how you have to look at it right that's [05:00] the only way that you can look at it because what what you see is a lot of times Brothers want the respect of being [05:08] the head without the the accountability of being the head right and so they'll [05:13] walk in and be like yeah you know what I'm saying I don't want to be with this woman because she don't listen to me you know what I'm saying she rebellious [05:19] towards me this that another which is fair right that's fair to say but at the same time have you done your part to [05:27] instill the trust right and that trust comes from no matter how this play out I [05:32] am accountable for it I'm going to up hold my end of the deal I'm going to guide you through your end of the deal [05:38] if everything falls apart and nobody's doing what they supposed to do it lands on me I have to step in I have to pull [05:45] the extra work I have to do whatever I need to do to make sure that things keep rolling to make sure that I find a [05:51] correction to all the situations right that is the responsibility of a man that [05:56] is that is the head right um so that's where we left off now we want [06:01] to kind of pick up uh and and talk a little bit about uh those responsibilities a little bit more go a [06:09] little bit deeper into them um talk a little bit about how how the woman is responsible for some things as well um [06:16] so let's start off with Colossians this is Colossians chapter 3 Let's do verse [06:22] 25 this Colossians chapter 3 verse [06:28] 25 [06:50] if ye be oh wait my back but he that does doeth wrong shall [06:56] receive for the wrong which he Colossians chapter 3 [07:06] yeah it verse 25 yeah go ahead do it again but he that [07:12] doeth wrong shall receive for the wrong which he hath done and there is no respect of [07:17] persons give me Colossians chapter 2 verse [07:24] 25 ain't no 25 and two huh there's no 25 and [07:31] 2 can't be one give me Colossians chapter [07:37] 1 wherefore I made a minister according to the dispensation of God which is given to me no that's not it [07:44] um okay go back to Colossians chapter 3 give me verse [07:50] one if ye then be risen with the Messiah seek those things which are above which [07:56] are the Messiah sitting on the right hand of God mhm set your affection on on [08:02] things above not on things on the earth for ye are dead and your life is hid with the Messiah and God when the [08:09] Messiah who is our life shall appear then shall ye also appear with him in glory mortify Therefore your members [08:16] which are upon the Earth fornication uncleanness in in inordinate [08:22] affection evil concupisent and covetousness which is [08:28] idolatry for which things sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of [08:33] disobedience in the right so he said these are the things that cause the wrath of God to come right we all we [08:40] often times speak a lot about all the other things that you know all a lot of the things that's in our law right but [08:46] what you'll never see is the most high God ain't never judged a bunch of Gentiles because they didn't keep the feast days you just won't see [08:53] it right you won't see anywhere he like okay look I I'm judging the the the the [08:59] syrians and and taking them out their land because for all these years they didn't keep the Sabbath he did that to [09:05] our people you'll never see them do that to other people whenever you see him judging other people it's because of the [09:11] things that that Paul just went over it's fornication right idolatry all [09:17] those type of things most high God coming after you right it's important like these are the things where the wrath of God is coming out that's what [09:23] he's talking about keep going watch this and the which he also walked [09:30] sometime when you lived in them but now you are put off all these anger wrath malice blasphemy filthy communication [09:37] out of your mouth lie not to one another seeing that you have put the old man you [09:43] have put off the old man with his deeds and have put on the new man which [09:48] is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him where there is neither Greek nor Jew circumcision nor [09:55] uncircumcision Barbarian scyan Bond nor freak but the Messiah is all and in all [10:02] put on as the elect of God holy and beloved vowels of mercies kindness [10:08] humbleness and and mind humbleness of mind meekness and longsuffering [10:13] forbearing one another and forgiv yeah that's what I want what what verse is that 12 that's 12 jump down to maybe [10:22] verse maybe 15 or 18 do do like do like do like uh give me like [10:30] 17 and whatsoever you do in word or deed do all in the same of the Lord yahua [10:36] giving thanks to God and the father by him watch this here yeah watch this here [10:42] it is wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands as it is fit in the Lord [10:48] right so he said wives submit yourselves to your own husband as it is fit to the [10:53] Lord right so in other words as long as your husband right is bearing the [11:00] responsibility as the head that in a way that's fit to Yahweh submit yourself to [11:07] him right so a lot of times you have men that's not following the most high God [11:12] talking about man this woman won't submit to you of course she won't she probably got some darn [11:19] sense right even if she ain't righteous she probably got enough sense to know I shouldn't submit to this untrustworthy [11:25] unrighteous man right because our commandment tells a wife to [11:31] submit as it fits [11:36] Yahweh so as a man then before you could even bring that complaint first of all I don't want to hear that [11:42] complaint ever under any circumstance I don't want to personally hear that complaint like that that complaint from [11:48] you should never hit social media that complaint from you should never go you [11:53] know what I'm saying to your you know what I'm saying to your to your mama house or you know what I'm saying to what you know you should never walk out [12:00] and bad mouth your wife your wife that you chose that you in the marriage with the situation that you are in that you [12:07] supposed to be the head of that you accountable for you go man y'all won't believe and you bad mouth hurt a bunch [12:14] of random people you seeking advice you know what I'm saying you having counsel or whatever that's different right but [12:20] if you just just promoting and bad mouthing your wife the one that you chose that's a reflection on you that [12:25] ain't got nothing to do with them right but before you can bring that claim up [12:32] to the most high God or to whoever is giving you counsel or advice or whatever it is the first thing you got to do is [12:37] check yourself and see okay well hold on am I aligned am I doing what I'm supposed to do have I taken care of my [12:43] part of this situation okay yes I took care of my part matter of fact I may have done more [12:48] than enough okay now now now you can introduce that into the conversation you [12:53] say okay well I don't I need some help understanding how do I get to my wife to make sure that that we can be aligned [13:00] that that she can submit to me how do I build that trust how do I establish that trust from her what does she need what [13:06] do I need to do right but at the end of the day that's the man's job right that's your wife that you chose right [13:14] that's why it's important to understand that we choose our spous our spouses [13:20] because that brings a different level of accountability if I'm sitting here and I was like man I prayed three days and [13:26] three nights straight that God send me a wife and I felt a vision and it said go I [13:33] have found your wife choose her right then you go out and choose her Who you gonna blame if stuff don't go [13:39] right you g be sitting there looking like oh well God you know God told me choose this white he must he just must [13:45] have made him wanted me to go through this is it was this was God ordained all the foolishness we just went through no [13:51] stop that stuff ain't had nothing to do with the most high God you Sor you thought [13:57] she was pretty you thought she was was smart you thought whatever it was and you grabbed her and then you realized oh [14:02] she's smarter than me and that made you insecure right she prettier than me and [14:08] now that makes her that makes you insecure she probably messing with somebody else she probably doing all these different things that we deal with [14:14] it comes from our insecurities a lot of times as the man right we don't feel like we can [14:22] match wits we don't feel like we can do the work that it takes to convince our wives to to follow us in a different [14:30] direction we want the easy way rout we just want it to be already ready made if you want it already ready made then you [14:36] choose one that's already ready made you wait you do whatever you got to do but if you find yourself in a situation [14:42] because you rushed or you made concessions or you did whatever you did you have to deal with [14:47] that that's what you walked into even if you got tricked she lied to you you got [14:53] tricked nobody else got tricked you got tricked you was convinced same on the woman's [14:59] side right oh man he made me believe he was a righteous man this that and the [15:05] other this that and then you get into it with him and you find out he doing the most guess [15:12] what you got tricked now you got to figure it out watch keep goinging He he'll walk us through [15:18] it husbands love your wives and be not bitter against them that's right [15:24] children obey your parents in all things for this is well pleasing unto the Lord [15:29] fathers provoke not your children to anger lest they be discouraged servants obey in all things [15:36] your Masters according to the flesh not with eye Service as men Pleasers but in [15:42] singleness of heart fearing God and whatsoever ye do do it heartily as to [15:47] the Lord and not unto man knowing that the Lord knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the [15:55] inheritance for ye serve the Lord yahushua side but he that do wrong shall [16:01] receive for the wrong which he has done and there is no respect of persons turn your speakers down for me just a little [16:07] bit to um grab uh Titus Chapter [16:19] 2 all right he said why submit yourself to your own husband as if it's the most high God then after that he told hey [16:26] husbands love your wife and don't be bitter towards them right because that's what H listen [16:34] that is what happens in marriages y'all start to get bitter against another you [16:39] feel I mean you feel like somebody did this how it go right you get your marriage somebody I remember my wife she [16:46] said something to me right and it was a long time before I let that thing [16:51] go right I said some things to her long time before she let these things go [16:59] you start to grow bitterness about this stuff you start to feel like oh they just get away with whatever he did that [17:06] to me and I'm just supposed to let them just walk over me so you won no no no I want a certain level of [17:12] punishment I want something to happen to you right I want you to feel it I want you to feel how I felt when you made me [17:19] feel that way right that's bitterness that that grows right it grow and if you don't [17:25] check it it grows now from a husband's perspective imagine if you are truly trying to be [17:31] the head right A lot of these dudes ain't trying to be the head so they can't speak from this position but if you are truly trying to be the head and [17:38] whole household falling apart so you got to pick up extra pieces on top of what you already do you don't think that [17:44] causes bitterness like man I'm carrying this I'm carrying this I'm carrying that I'm [17:49] carrying that I don't feel like you helping me I don't feel like you love me [17:55] I don't feel like this that nothing and then you start growing bitterness right that's why that's what Paul's [18:01] letting us know don't get bitter with your wife love her and don't get bitter with your wife CU it's your job he [18:09] didn't tell the wife that from the husband point of view it is your job everything is on your plate [18:18] right it's your job last time we talked about we used you know like we use you know like a corporate [18:25] situation if somebody say Hey listen I want you to lead this entire [18:31] department but you starting from scratch you ain't got no you ain't got nobody in your department yet I want you to hire [18:38] at least one director under you right and then that director can hire his team [18:45] right that means it's your job to choose the right [18:50] people to run your department you say okay let me hire a director you find [18:55] that director okay director these are the type of people people I won't hire so now if the the the director's team [19:02] don't fit what you doing you got to figure out how to solve that if the director don't fit with with [19:09] what you're doing you have to figure out how to solve that right the only difference between [19:14] the corporate world and our world is well you can't fire you know what I'm saying you can't exactly fire and [19:20] replace her you know I mean and we'll talk about that a little more in a little bit this is uh Titus Chapter 2 [19:26] verse one but speak thou the things which become [19:33] sound doctrine that the Aged men be sober [19:41] grave temperate sound in faith and charity and patience right so the age [19:47] men need to be sober have to be sound in other words their minds got to work [19:52] right right what else the aged women likewise that they [19:58] be in Behavior as becometh Holiness not false accusers not giving a much wine [20:03] teachers of good things right so he said listen they don't need to be no false accusers just out here like a lot of [20:09] times what you see what what what what women of our world ends up being [20:15] attracted to is all these you know what I'm saying these blogs or you know I'm saying these Tablo rumor you know what [20:22] I'm saying gossip stuff and a lot of that stuff is false accusations it's not well researched it's just it's just [20:28] salacious stuff right it's just whatever gets the attention at the moment so you get taken into that and then you start [20:34] falsely accusing people just based off of the gossip so you know what saying he's saying like no don't let these [20:40] women fall into this stuff you can see that a lot of women have fallen into this these very things right keep going [20:46] men too by the way that they may teach the young women to be sober to love their hus right teach the young women to [20:52] be sober to love their husbands to love their husbands to love love their [20:58] children and to love their children watch this to be discreet to be discreet in other words [21:07] it's not it's not it's not appropriate for the woman to be because the most [21:13] high God is protecting this very thing that he sees as a danger it's not appropriate for the woman to be out hey [21:19] this that and the other this this is what's happening in our household this no discreet [21:24] quiet right quiet you good you need to be all out there watch this keep going [21:31] chased keep Chase just mean disciplined keep is at home good [21:37] obedient to their own obedient to their own husbands that the word of God be not [21:44] Blas right so he said keepers of the home when you look at that word keepers of the home it's talking about it's it's [21:50] like it's saying like the like the husband is the head of the woman right and therefore the head of the whole [21:56] house keepers of the home is saying the the wife is the head of you know the [22:02] children or the household right so the the head of everything going on in the house outside of the husband right so [22:09] that's the position that's the role that that she's generally or she's responsible for but at the same time it [22:17] says being obedient to your husband your own husband so that the word is not [22:24] blasphemed right that's the important peace because the the man makes the call [22:31] about how he wants his household to run and if he want his household to run where you know what baby I don't want to [22:37] work I just want to plan or I just want to do whatever right whatever it is that he want to do and that's agreeable and [22:44] they end up being married right then that means that okay well baby I need you to work then maybe she she's the [22:51] bread winner she brings it out it's however he sets up his household the only problem is when there's contention [22:57] there where it's like when she say no I think it should go this way and he say nope I think it should go that way if [23:02] they can't settle that out it needs to default to what the man said right as long as that's fitting for [23:11] Yahweh right as long as it ain't causing her to go when they say fitting for Yahweh think about it's not causing you [23:16] to sin it's not causing you to go against the word the wisdom of the the word all right keep [23:25] going young men likewise exort to be sober minded in all things showing [23:30] thyself a pattern of good works and Doctrine showing uncorrupt this gravity [23:36] sincerity right so now for a husband this for the young men right so for the men that all to be husbands are are [23:42] growing to be husband you got to have gravity right when it's saying gravity it's talking about you bought a book [23:50] right you focused right you not just when you talk about gravity it's like you know what I'm saying it pulls you down to the [23:56] ground so that's why the translators use that right but when it's talking about gravity it's talking about something [24:01] that's that's holding you down you got to be anchored in the word right you can't just be all over [24:07] the place right that's not the place of a man you ain't supposed to be just bouncing around like oh today I want to [24:13] do this nope I have a totally different idea today or hey I'm emotional about this it changes everything that I said I [24:19] everything I said about you yesterday it changes because you hurt my feelings today no man got to add [24:25] gravity wife come in one day you know what I'm saying and she you know what I'm saying she in a bad mood and she get to yelling and saying something to you [24:32] okay that did hurt my feelings it did hurt my feelings I didn't like it but guess what the commitments I made [24:38] yesterday still got to be completed today I'm a man it got to keep [24:45] moving right cuz the world keeps spinning as long as the world spinning we got to keep [24:52] moving grab um grab uh 1st Samuel chapter 25 [25:01] CU I want I just want I want people to understand like the roles are not a lot of people will put it on the Bible when [25:07] they talk about the roles whereas yeah the man runs the household he's the bread winner he goes out and work woman [25:12] stays home she takes care of the children this that and other yeah I mean that's that's fine if you want to do it [25:18] that way that's not always how it was done though man is the Smart the leader he [25:25] you know what I'm saying pays all the bills this that and the other the one and just sits and she's not good with math and all that that's not always how [25:31] it played out right sometimes that's the case sometimes you got a wife that's way [25:38] more wise than you way smarter than you do you have the humility to say okay [25:45] well let me defer to the the information on my wife we don't have to get it but in Genesis we talked about how Sarah [25:51] Sarah was like listen get that bom woman woman out of my house Abraham didn't like that that was [25:57] was his son she was telling basically this woman in the son which is [26:03] Abraham first son kick come out Abraham didn't like he wasn't [26:10] feeling that but the most high God told him yo yo yo arken on to your wife listen to your wife do exactly what she [26:17] told you to do right so Abraham had to eat that he had look at him okay what she said is [26:22] right then most high God said do it so it must be right [26:28] right so you have to look at it it's not it's not as simple as just you know what I'm saying the man make all the shots [26:34] this that another sometimes you got a wife that's smarter right this is uh this is 1st Samuel chapter 25 verse [26:41] one and Samuel died and all the Israelites were gathered together and lamented him and buried him in the house [26:47] of Rama and David arose and went down to the Wilderness of pan and there was a man in Mayon whose possessions were in [26:54] Carmel and the man was very great and he had 3,000 sheep thousand goats he was [26:59] shearing his sheep and carel now the name of the man was nabal and the name of his wife Abigail and right so the [27:06] name of the man was nabal and the name of his wife was Abigail let's learn [27:11] something about Abigail and she was a woman of good [27:17] understanding and of a beautiful coun she was a woman of what good understanding and of a beautiful [27:23] countenance right she was fine and she is smart to book say [27:29] right so she was a beautiful woman and she had a good understanding she had a good head on her shoulders right keep [27:35] going watch this for the man was curlish and evil in his doings and he [27:42] was of the House of Caleb David heard in the wilderness that nabal did Shear his sheep and David sent [27:48] out 10 young men and David said unto the young man get you up to Carmel and go to [27:53] nabal and greet him in my name th shall you say to him that lives in [27:59] prosperity peace be both to you and peace be to thine house and peace be unto all that thou have and now I have [28:06] heard that thou has shearers now thy Shepherds which were with us we hurt them not neither was there ought missing [28:12] unto them all the while they were in Caramel ask thy young men and they will show thee wherefore let the young men [28:19] find favor in thine eyes for we come in a good day give I pray thee whatsoever comes to thine hand unto thy servants [28:26] and to thy son David and when David's young men came they spake to n Bal according to all those [28:31] words in the name of David and and ceased and they so now the ball had men [28:37] out shearing the Sheep David is traveling cuz Saul he traveling away [28:42] from where Saul was right and then he sees these men out here sharing the [28:47] Sheep this D look David's not by himself he got a whole bunch of men they Warriors though so he see these men [28:54] shearing the sheep and David looking like oh boy it's dangerous out here here y'all sharing these sheep anything can get you one of the animals the Beast can [29:00] get you or if you got to find a wrong group of men like us we might be able to get you right and David also know we [29:08] hungry we ain't got a lot we on the run right now you know what I'm saying we've been we've been out going to war we [29:15] hungry so he he told the young men he like yo go back who y'all work for naal [29:21] oh man go ahead go back to the ball let them know that we we looked after y'all out here you know what I'm saying [29:26] anything they tried to get y'all we took care of it anybody who tried to press y'all out here we took care of it go let [29:32] them know just let them know anything that come to our hand and anything he can give us that'll be helpful we'll [29:37] take it whatever it is we not ask for anything specific whatever he think is right you know what I'm saying just kind of you know what I'm saying give it over [29:42] to us because basically they with their bodyguards now from the ball's point of [29:47] view did he ask for that no he didn't ask nobody to protect his men he had [29:53] them out there shearing the Sheep they were shearing sheep before David came around they'll be shearing sheep after [29:58] David came around right so Nal you can see you you about to see that Nal don't [30:04] necessarily feel the value that David thought that he provided right David saw [30:09] some value he looking like man yeah no I know David know what it's like being out there somebody gonna attack he know what [30:15] it take to to to defend yourself so he looking at these men out here sheer and sheep he looking like oh y'all going [30:21] mess around get y' butt got we could have got he looking at it like we could have got your butt like instead of [30:26] coming over here protect you we could have just got you and robbed you for everything you had we didn't do that there's a whole lot of other men [30:33] that tried to come around and we protected y'all from it it's some Beast that could have got y'all we protected [30:39] y'all from we didn't let nothing happen to y'all he like all right but just go you know what I'm saying just go tell your [30:45] boss tell them you know what I'm saying tell them what we did have him look out David thinking like oh this is a no-brainer because that's what type of [30:50] dude David is oh no we appreciate that I give you whatever that's just what type of dude he is he didn't know what type [30:56] of dude in the ball was so let's see and they all answered David's servants and said who is David and who is the son of [31:03] Jesse There Be many servants nowadays that break away even from his own [31:09] Master shall I then take my bread and my water and my f in my flesh that I have [31:14] killed for my shearers and give it unto men whom I know not and whence they be [31:21] so David right so so now she looking like uh I [31:26] mean neighbor looking like he like it don't make no sense that I take food you know how people be saying I take you [31:33] want me to take food from my family from my people and give it to [31:39] you this is stuff that I prepare for the people that do work for me and now I'm supposed to just give it to you who are [31:45] you right it's a bunch of basically he's saying you broke off from Saul he's like it's a bunch of people that break off [31:52] from their master and start doing whatever they want to do am I supposed to give money and give [31:58] bread to all of them so you can see he being stingy he don't see the value in it like David did let's see how this how [32:04] this work out so David's young men turned their way and went again and came and told him [32:10] all those things and David said unto his men G you on every man his sword and they GED on every man his sword and [32:17] David also GED on his sword and they went up they went up after David about 400 men and 200 Abode by the STA by the [32:24] stuff but one of the young men told Abigail B's wife saying behold David sent Messengers out of the Wilderness to [32:30] salute our master and he railed on them right so now head of household nabal he's the one head of [32:38] household right and then you got Abigail who got a good head on her shoulders [32:45] right so now nabal he didn't consider her at all we ain't got no book that was like hey abigael what you think we [32:51] should do he know who he is he just shoot it down man who is this D I don't know who he is he protected y'all I'm [32:57] supposed to pay him now I didn't ask for this I don't even know who he is you [33:03] telling me if any old random person break off from their master and happen to bring around my people now I'm [33:08] responsible for feeding them feeding them the food that go to my PE that don't make no sense I'm not giving you [33:14] nothing right David heard that and he said okay everybody G up your sword when [33:19] he say gir up your sword that mean he saying take your sword put it on your hip tighten that thing up he G up your [33:27] everybody G up your sword let's go he took 400 of them boys the bad ones too them he David roll with the bad boy he [33:34] took 400 them boy he like another 200 y'all stay and watch the stuff just in case somebody else come we'll be back [33:41] and they start riding the navor then what they said is uhoh we better tell [33:46] Abigail why would they want to tell Abigail cuz she the one with a good head [33:53] they all know this man ain't got the ball don't make no darn sense you know [33:58] he crazy everybody know it but they knew his wife had a good [34:04] head on you don't think he knew that but he didn't consider her he [34:10] didn't think about it he didn't ask for her advice or nothing he just say y yo I ain't giving them [34:17] nothing so now when they hear that David and 400 men is coming they know what David is about they didn't heard the [34:24] stories about what David did to the Philistines right so now they looking like okay we got to do something about [34:30] this let's talk to Abigail let's see what let's see how they dealt with let's see how Abigail dealt with [34:40] it but the men were very good unto us and we were not hurt neither missed we [34:45] anything as long as we were conversing with them when we were in the fields [34:51] they were a wall unto us both by night and day all the while we were with them keeping the Sheep now therefore no one [34:58] consider that what thou wil do for evil is determined against our master and against all his household for he is such [35:05] a son of B that a man right when it say a son of B that's that's giving you an impression that he's a son of [35:11] worthlessness he's such a worthless dude they look this is his servants that's [35:17] saying this about him they know this about this man you don't think he know it you don't think his wife know it [35:22] everybody know it about him but he didn't consider his wife saying he man [35:28] he ignorant like how how we would say today like man he yeah yeah keep going [35:33] watch this that's exactly what it say it is an ignorant dude all right keep going then Abigail made haste and took 200 [35:41] Loaves and two bottles of wine and five sheep ready dressed and five measures of parched corn and 100 clusters of raisins [35:48] and 200 cakes of figs and laid them on donkeys and she said right so look Abigail immediately make a decision [35:58] cuz she see that her husband is not according to righteousness so immediately what she do [36:06] is she make a decision when it say make haste he said quickly quickly she a do a [36:11] whole we don't got no book saying she did a whole bunch of talking all she said all they said is look he coming his [36:18] whole household about to get taken out on the accoun of him he's a son of B that boy ignorant he don't make no darn [36:24] sense right she said got it give me this give me that hey look give me that wrap [36:30] that together put the bread no put it on there put it on there and what she do she put it on the donkeys right she put it on top of the [36:37] donkeys and then she look like we gonna give them all this stuff right cuz otherwise we all gonna [36:46] die and they gonna take it all anyway let's keep going watch this and she said unto her servants go on before [36:53] me behold I come after you but she told not her husband Nal and it was right look she put it in her [37:00] hand she said I ain't even gonna tell him this why would she not want to tell him he probably ruined the plan that boy [37:08] don't make no sense he don't have it all up here she's smarter than he is she got a [37:14] good head on her shoulder had he considered her right if [37:19] he deferred to her if he said look what you think we should do here oh no I think we should just pay him wouldn't [37:25] have been no issues wouldn't have been none of this drama right because he the head of the [37:31] household and he don't want to listen to his wife and he just want to do his own thing he didn't consider [37:37] her right he didn't think about it and she knows it so much so that she's like I'm not even G to tell him what I'm [37:43] about to do right now because I know his better find some type of way to get in the way of it he'll try to tell me no [37:50] he'll try to do this he'll try no no no what I'm doing I know is the right thing to do what he talking about is some [37:57] foolishness watch this keep going and it was so as she rode on the [38:04] donkey that she came down by the co covert of the hill and behold David and his men came down against her and she [38:10] met them now David had said surely in vain have I kept all that this fellow has in W in the wilderness so that [38:17] nothing was missed of all that pertained unto him and hath requited me evil for good so the more also so and more also [38:26] do God unto the enemies of David if there if I leave of all that pertain to him by the morning like any that pass [38:32] any that pisses against the wall right in other words if there's any males that [38:37] that belong to him any men that belong to him I'mma kill them [38:42] all right keep going when Abigail saw David she [38:48] hastened and lighted off her donkey and fell before David on her face and bowed herself to the ground M and fell at his [38:54] feet and said upon me my Lord upon me let this iniquity be and let thine handmade I pray thee speak in thine [39:00] audience and hear the words of thine handmade right so now what she did first [39:06] is she said listen let me take the iniquity of my husband put it on [39:12] me right she bowed down to David and watch the words that she chooses when [39:18] she's communicating with David she got a great head on her shoulders watch how smart this woman is right let not my [39:25] Lord I'm pray thee regard this man of Bah even nebal for as his name is so is [39:31] he is his name and Folly is with him but I thine handmade saw not the young men [39:37] of my Lord whom thou this send now therefore my Lord as the Lord lives and as your soul lives seeing the Lord has [39:44] withholden thee from coming to shed blood and from avenging thyself with thine own hand now let thine enemies and [39:51] they that seek evil to my Lord be as nabal right so now listen she knows [39:57] about David already she knows that David has been at war with Saul and Saul have [40:03] been trying to kill him but David has refrained from going against Saul she [40:08] knew this already right so she knew that David was a righteous man so the way she [40:14] appealed to him she said listen listen listen listen oh my goodness look put it on me [40:21] the stuff that my husband said right but listen don't I'm so happy that Yahweh [40:27] has stopped you from taking Vengeance into your own hands cuz he know he know [40:35] that our law tells us just that very thing don't take Vengeance into your own [40:40] hands right that's our law David got emotional real quick and [40:45] he about to handle the situation but David's not King at this [40:50] point right so he didn't have the authority to handle it he would have had to bring it to the judges [40:57] so she jumped out and she began to gently she didn't teach him no law she didn't tell them what the law she Saidi [41:04] thank God that he stopped you from taking Vengeance into your own [41:10] hands right just because David stopped when she bowed down that was enough for [41:16] her to say oh I thank God that he stopped you so what you think that did to David's mind like oh [41:23] crap I ain't supposed to be taking vengance in my own hands now you know what I'm saying like I almost [41:28] got into an emotional moment and almost did something I regret but she gently without teaching [41:35] them book without without communicating what the law said to him or anything in the nature she gently spoke truth and [41:44] put him in remembrance of the scripture by doing that just by her behavior right through her behavior he [41:52] now remembers the scriptures and now he can calm himself down watch watch this keep [42:12] going you on [42:18] mute and now this blessing which thine handmade has brought unto my Lord let it [42:23] even be given unto the young men that follow my Lord I pray forgive the trespass of thine handmade for Yahweh [42:30] will certainly make my Lord a sure house because so look he said certainly [42:35] forgive she said certainly forgive the trespass of theal th handmaid thy handmade because [42:42] remember earlier she said Put it on me get him out of the picture he look he [42:49] just like his name he he be doing crazy stuff we all know it right we know the man is kind of crazy that's my husband [42:55] now the man is kind of crazy he be do we all know it right get it off of him put it [43:01] on me then she come back and then she say again forgive me as if she did it [43:08] this lady is smooth she's smart she got a good head on her shoulders right watch this keep going for Yahweh will [43:14] certainly make my Lord a sure house because my Lord the battles of Yahweh and evil has not been found in thee all [43:21] thy days yet a man is risen to pursue thee and to seek thy soul but the soul of my Lord shall be bound in the bundle [43:27] of life with Yahweh thy God and The Souls of thine enemies them shall he sling out as of fling out as out of the [43:36] middle of a sling and it shall come to pass when Yahweh shall have done to my Lord according to all the good that he [43:43] has spoken concerning thee and shall and shall have appointed thee ruler over Israel that this shall be no grief unto [43:49] thee nor offense of heart unto my Lord NE either that thou hath shed blood [43:56] causeless or that my Lord ha Avenged himself but when Yahweh shall have de [44:01] dealt with my Lord then remember thine handmade and David Abigail so so she's [44:07] looking at she looking like listen I know the most high God Is Gonna Make You King I didn't heard the prophecies just [44:13] like everybody else didn't heard them and I believe those prophecies she looking like so it don't make no sense [44:20] you know what I'm saying and she not saying it to him directly she just saying oh it's going to be great that the most high God avenge all avenge you [44:27] of all your enemies that you don't have to avenge it yourself she just reminded him that listen if you were to go [44:33] through with this you'd be wrong but she's doing it without telling him and trying to teach him what's right and [44:40] wrong right she is clever because the book tells she had a [44:47] good head on her should she was a good understanding she understood things she [44:52] understood how she was supposed to approach a situation she understood when she needed to take [44:58] action right the the husband wife relationship is not the one it doesn't [45:04] have to be the stereotypical one that they try to tell us comes from the Bible you know what I'm saying what's the uh [45:10] what's that show that you know what I'm saying everybody be watching when they hate men now it's the uh the wives tail [45:16] handmaid's wife tail or whatever oh man my wife started watching that I'm like oh they real slick trying to make it [45:22] seem like you know this stuff is biblical yeah that's that's what they try to too they try to make it look like [45:27] this weirdo stuff come from our book that's not true not at all hope we got [45:32] here are are I think we finish here we good here go to go to um Proverbs chapter 31: [45:41] 10 a lot of people didn't heard of The Virtuous Woman in Proverbs a lot of people heard it not a [45:48] lot of people take their time to actually read it and understand what's going on cuz you can't hold that if the [45:53] book is calling a virtual a virtuous woman he giv you a description of what [45:58] it is to be a virtuous woman you got to look at that and say does this align [46:03] with what people have told me a Biblical woman [46:09] is and anybody who's really read The Virtuous Woman I it don't align at all with what y'all thinking oh just stay at [46:17] home and teach the kids how to do math no that's not what the book that's [46:22] not what a book called a virtuous woman that's your mouth talking right this is Proverbs 31:10 watch the [46:30] book say who can find a virtuous woman for her price is far above rubies the heart [46:36] of her husband does safely trust in her so that he shall have no need of spoil [46:42] she will do him good and not evil in the all the days of his life she seeks wool and flax and works willingly with her [46:48] hands she is like a merchant ships she bringeth her food from afar she Rises [46:54] also while it is yet night and gives meat to her household and a portion of her maidens she considers a field and [47:01] buys it with the fruit of her hands she planted a Vineyard she GS her loins with [47:06] strength and strengthens her arms she perceive that her merchandise is good [47:11] her candle goes not out by Night She lays her hands to the spindle and her hands hold the distaff she stretches out [47:18] her hand to the poor yay she reaches forth her hands to the needy she is not [47:24] this is all the stuff that she's doing right keep going she's not afraid to She's Not [47:31] Afraid of the snow for her household for all her household are clothed with [47:36] Scarlet right so look She's Not Afraid of the snow for her household in other words it's snowing [47:43] outside oh well you know I I run the household so I'm going to stay in home today no just because it's snowing my [47:50] kids need some stuff guess what I'm going out there right keep going watch this [47:56] she makes herself coverings of tapestry her clothing is silk and purple her husband is known in the gates when he [48:02] sits among the Elders of the land right her husband is prestigious they know who [48:07] he is right so listen a lot of times what you Dad when you get when you get a husband that's just he's I mean he's the [48:15] man guess what some women feel like they got to shrink back right what he telling you is the [48:22] husband of this woman was the man everybody no and what [48:27] happened her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the Elders of the land she makes fine linen and sells [48:34] it and delivers girdles unto the merchant right so listen she make her own clothes and she make clothes for her [48:41] her children her husband is the man everybody know it so she take that and she say you know what I'mma make some [48:47] fine linen for all the people and I'mma sell it so now she's running her own [48:53] business right this this is not the woman that y'all that y'all been taught about keep going watch this he opens her [49:01] mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness right she opens her mouth with wisdom she's of good [49:07] understanding and in her tongue is the law of kindness right keep going she looks well to the ways of her household [49:15] and eateth not the bread of idleness look she's not idle the bread of IDL [49:21] just basically saying I'm just sitting here eating right I'm just sitting here killing time right she said she don't do [49:26] that she's always finding something to do always finding something to keep herself occupied right keep going her [49:33] children arise up and call her blessed her husband also and and he Praises her [49:38] many have done virtuously but thou exceeded them all favor is deceitful and [49:43] beauty is vain but a woman that fears Yahweh she shall be praised give her of the fruit of her [49:51] hands and let her own works praise her in the gates right so give her of the [49:56] fruit of her head what do they tell you oh well you know the man is the provider the man give you no no no that's not [50:02] what this is saying this is saying she takes what she provides give her the fruit of her hands [50:10] I run my own business I make my own clothes and make my kids clothes I sell [50:17] clothes whatever come from my hand that's what I that's my Prophet my husband do his own thing and he The Man [50:23] by itself the book is calling look when it say virtuous woman the book is calling this [50:30] this is the Crim Del Crim of a woman this is not saying that every woman needs to play this role but it does show [50:37] you that the Crim de la Crim of a woman has her own thing [50:42] going she eats from the fruit of her own hand she's not sitting here waiting for her husband hey baby uh can I have [50:49] another no no no I'm providing I'm contributing I'm doing the thing that [50:55] now I don't make anything wrong with the household that have a woman that's not contributing in that same [51:01] way it don't make nothing wrong it's about how the husband wanted set up she got a pretigious prestigious husband he [51:08] was looking like this the wife I want because I know you work that's what he want and she's a virtuous woman for [51:13] doing that right but just don't have be stuck in the mindset that oh well I'm I [51:19] believe the Bible now so that means that I have to be quiet and shut up and just do this and just do that and take care [51:26] of the house and cook and clean this that that's not what the book say that's not what the book say have a conversation with your husband see how [51:33] y'all want y' household to run and if he agree with it and whatever he say that's what it that's how it goes right but [51:39] appeal to your husband and husband listen to your wife listen to her idea see if it makes sense weigh them out [51:46] y'all come to an agreement right because that's how you [51:51] run it keep going watch this it's more that was the end of the chapter oh that [51:57] was it I thought it was a little more to it all right um grab um grab uh First [52:05] Peter 1 Peter chapter [52:19] 3 this is 1 Peter chapter 3 verse [52:24] one [52:31] likewise ye wives be in subjection to your own husbands that right so subjection is just what we just talked [52:37] about is being subject in other words if if [52:43] um so think of think of subject this is a good topic just for us to know in [52:48] general when the book tells us to be subject to the authorities right we kind of think think [52:55] of it as the law of the land so what that means is if I'm [53:00] speeding right and a police officer pulls me over that means I shouldn't [53:07] slam on the gas and try to run away from that police officer right oh crap I don't want to get called for this speeding ticket so let me just keep [53:13] going see if I can get away from them that's not being subject if I'm called speeding to be subject I'll say you know [53:20] what I was C speeding what do you want me to do license regist okay let me give you that sign right there okay let me [53:26] sign that show up to court that day okay let me show up the court right that is being subject to the law in the same way [53:34] a woman has to be subject to her husband so what that what does that mean when Abigail was like [53:40] yo he did what okay load all the stuff on a donkey this that and other and send [53:45] it out right no no no we not telling nothing just send it right if he finds [53:51] that out and we can read the rest of the story but if he finds that out and he's like you know what I don't like that X Y [53:59] and Z should happen she has to be subject to whatever he puts in place [54:04] from now on I don't want you making any decisions like that without me she would [54:11] have to be subject to that as long as it's fitting to Yahweh right but she would have to be subject to that that's [54:17] what being subject means that doesn't necessarily mean that a woman don't go off and do her own thing without [54:22] checking with him first if that's whatever agreement they have in that household if that's already pre-arranged then that's what she needs to be subject [54:28] to but if it's not it don't mean that that's the default it just means that whatever's put in place she needs to be [54:35] subject to them right keep [54:42] going likewise you wise be in subjection to your own husbands that if any obey [54:47] not the word they also May without the word be won by the conversation of the wives right so and when it say [54:55] conversation is talking about Behavior so that's kind of what we is talking about where um she uh Abigail didn't try [55:02] to try to tell David directly uh Deuteronomy chapter you know she didn't she didn't kind of teach him the word [55:08] she wasn't trying to teach him the word she wasn't trying to accuse him of doing nothing wrong she she she presented it [55:14] to him in a way of oh I'm thankful that you're not avenging yourself cuz now [55:20] that that would say oh you know what it is a sin for me to do that [55:26] now he's not being taught of nothing right she's just clever with how she went about it in the same way Peter is [55:32] telling them look wives when you dealing with your husbands right even if your husband ain't subject to to Yahweh right [55:40] you be subject to him as if it's Yahweh right but you be subject to him and then [55:46] through your behavior right he'll be led to the word just by you having good behavior [55:53] he'll be reminded that you know what this is wrong there'll be a certain level of guilt that he like you know what I'm not going to do this right that [56:00] is the hope that we have and that's the faith that we have you stay consistent in what you supposed to do so what does [56:06] that mean right if my husband is saying that if if if if there's a wife and her [56:12] husband is saying listen I think we should start attending [56:18] uh Sabbath study every week be subject to that right now on the [56:23] opposite side listen I like for us to go out and get drunk you know what I'm saying sometime I don't feel like we [56:29] have fun like we used to when we first met we used to have fun let's just go out you know what I'm saying every Friday let's just go get drunk let's go [56:35] you know what I'm saying let's go have a couple drinks and just you know I'm saying have a night on the town that might be a good time but then her with [56:43] her Chase Behavior knowing that where she who she served now okay he's willing to do that she's [56:49] not right so now he has to she has to be like no I can't do that I can't get [56:55] drunk I don't want to be in a situation I don't want to be next to you while you getting drunk right so instead we could do X Y [57:04] and Z no I don't like that okay well now she's still subject to him but only in [57:10] the ways that's fitting Yahweh right well I can't do that so then maybe through that situation he [57:16] looks at it and he out drinking by himself or he's tempted to drink with somebody else who he ain't supposed to [57:22] be drinking with in that situation puts him in mind like you know what I need to get my life together I need to go back [57:28] to my wife I need to be on the same thing that she doing she doing Bible study every Friday night he out doing [57:34] the most right that's the mindset that a woman has to have in these situations [57:40] it's tough it's tough especially when you got better understanding you know what I'm saying you there every Sabbath [57:47] study you read you reading you reading every day you reading and praying you [57:53] know the word you know that if it ever came back you know that when you in a group full of women you lighting they [57:59] butt up with word you teaching them everything oh no no no well first Corinthians you know what I'm saying say this this you letting them know and you [58:07] could do the same thing with your husband but the book tell you nope without word just through your [58:14] behavior he'll he he might be saved and so that takes patience it takes a lot of [58:21] restraint it takes some of the stuff that Abigail just showed it's not it's not difficult that's a very hard thing [58:27] to do but that's what's in front of it for a woman that's what we have to do right keep [58:33] going while they behold your Chase conversation coupled with fear whose adorning let it not be that of outward [58:40] adoring of PL plating the hair and of wearing gold or putting on of apparel [58:47] right so that's basically saying listen don't let people the the reason why people Ador you or a reason why people [58:53] honor you don't let it be because you braid your hair you got corn you got corn rolls you know what I'm saying you got scalp braids that's what it's [58:59] talking about when it's talking about pling the hair you got these SC you got all these nice scout braids right you [59:05] got this you got these gold or you got this fancy clothes like don't let that be the reason why people honor [59:12] you right in other words he telling her let what's coming from inside of you be [59:18] the reason why people honor you right cuz he he knows that man if you get into all this fashion stuff and [59:24] trying to look the Fest and the prettiest and all that you going to get tempted and go a different direction he [59:30] said listen if you focus on having the law of kindness come from your lips [59:35] right and being of good understanding and of Chase disciplined Behavior right you don't spend times in [59:43] the gossip and and being idle and just just running your darn mouth talking about nothing this right you have value [59:50] you have substance right he said if you do those things you you will be in a position to [59:56] where you can get away from all the foolishness right if you let you know [60:01] all your hairstyle and and your uh and you know what I'm saying your jewry and [60:06] all these different things you know what I'm saying your clothes and fashion you let all that be with the reason that [60:11] people be like oh you know that's a a nice young lady if that's the reason that they say it he say y'all you're on [60:17] a dangerous track right keep going let it be the hidden man of the heart and that which is not corruptable [60:24] even the ornament of a Meek and quiet Spirit which is in the sight of God a great [60:30] price after this manner in the old time the holy women also who trusted in God [60:35] adorned themselves being in subjection unto their own husbands even as that's right to who to what their own what [60:42] husbands that's it right to their own husband not to every don't get don't get [60:47] this oh Every Man Has Authority no no no no no just to your own husband every man [60:53] ain't got no darn Authority over you right you be subject only to your own [60:59] husband rest of these dudes can kick rocks you know what I'm saying tell them talk to your man if it's a problem right but that's how it works if [61:06] you do that with those roles if a man has a role and he says you know what I [61:11] understand that it's all my fault whatever go wrong I take accountability for it if he has that [61:17] mindset then it'll work out one way or another it'll work out right if a woman [61:24] has a mindset of you know what it's all on me but I can't teach this man I'm just going to have to have discipline [61:30] consistent Behavior right even if he ain't doing what he's supposed to do it's going to work out one way or [61:37] another it is going to work out right we get to talking about divorce and [61:43] separation and splitting up and all that when there's no way that we can become [61:51] agreeable and there are some situations where you going going to be a woman and unfortunately you going to have this [61:56] Abus of guy right where where and it may not even be physical but whatever it is that [62:03] is detrimental to you and it's more than what you can handle right or as a woman the same I [62:08] mean as a man the same thing you have this woman that puts you in a position where it tempts you to sin [62:16] consistently right either by what she's withholding from you or either by you [62:22] know what I'm saying what she says to you how she makes you feel or maybe things get physical right if any of those things [62:29] happen and you see that it threatens you personally with the most high God then [62:35] yahu look yahua told us if if your your eye cause you to sin you should pluck it [62:44] out right so if you willing to pull out your own darn eye just to keep yourself [62:50] from sin then surely you should be willing to cut off your your husband or your wife wife right if you believe that [62:57] you are drawing to sin because of their behavior then cut it off figure it out [63:02] until you can get control over over that situation right but maintain this is my fault I [63:11] chose to be here this is not they fault right even if even if them when the way [63:17] they look at you it just make you want to go get drunk right and you know that's a sin that ain't they fault [63:23] that's your fault you still want to go get drunk that's you right acknowledge that part don't blame nobody for what [63:30] you got going on acknowledge that part but at the same time protect yourself [63:35] and your salvation at all costs right but that's when we start getting the divorce and splitting [63:42] up right and it's a dangerous thing because the book only has one reason for [63:49] divorce there's only one thing that makes a true divorce where you could split in both of y'all can get remarried [63:56] there's only one situation right everything else is not a true divorce so [64:01] you're not divorce even if you get paperwork and file divorce and do all this other stuff y'all still married in [64:07] front of God that vow still stands so that means that you going out and you committing adultery or she going out and [64:13] she committing adultery when she get remarried or when you get remarried or when y'all deal with other people right [64:18] it's a dangerous situation that's why it's important to understand what this understand the vow before you make you [64:24] make that decision right grab [64:29] um grab uh [64:35] Matthew let me do Matthew Chapter 5 let's do Mar Mark chapter [64:44] 10 this is Mark chapter 10 verse [64:53] one [64:59] and he rose from there and came unto the coast of Judah by the farther side of [65:05] Jordan and the people resort resort unto him again and as he went and as he was W [65:11] he taught them again and the Pharisees came to him and asked him isn't it lawful for a man to put away his wife [65:17] right so now the Pharisees asked him is it lawful for a man to put away his wife [65:23] in other words to divorce his wife right watch this and he answered and said unto them what did Moses command you right so [65:30] yahua asked them he flipped it back on them what did Moses command you in other words he he's establishing I'm not [65:37] telling you anything different from what our law says when he said what did Moses [65:42] command you he's trying to let you know what I'm about to say to you is consistent with what the law said I'm [65:47] not giving you no new commandment on this watch this and they said Moses suffered to write a bill of divorce to [65:54] put her away and Yu answered and said unto them [65:59] for the hardness of your heart he wrote you this preet but from the beginning of the creation God made them male and [66:06] female for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and they TW and they twain shall be [66:13] one flesh so then they are no more Twain but one flesh what therefore God has [66:18] joined together let no man put us under right so now he's telling them most high [66:24] God don't want no divorce right he said listen the most high God set it up from the beginning [66:30] that the Two Become One flesh talking about Adam and Eve and we talked about that the last in the last study that we [66:36] did on marriage right the two that are that are married they become one [66:42] flesh right and then you got the H let's go let's go let's grab that uh let's read it again it's [66:49] uh um Genesis what is it chapter 2 [67:03] [Music] [67:23] yeah uh what verse um what I want I think it's like [67:29] should be at the end right what's the last verse like 25 26 yeah [67:37] so uh 24 24 give me uh Genesis chapter 2 verse [67:43] 24 therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh [67:50] right so he's he's establishing and said it's a couple things here actually one he's establishing that the Two Become [67:59] One flesh that's how he set it up he the point that yahua is making is you don't see nothing here about [68:05] divorce right the two shall become one you don't see any mechanism to separate the two from becoming one right once [68:14] they're one you don't see nothing to say okay now the two are back I mean now the one is back to two you know what I'm [68:20] saying you don't see any division there right so he's just establishing that's what it was from the beginning he [68:26] said Moses because of the hardness of your heart when you say when when we talk about hard of the heart that means [68:32] that it's talking about Disobedience that the most high God can't penetrate to lead you to do correct Behavior so [68:38] he's saying because of Disobedience Moses gave you a clause to have divorce but he saiding before I [68:45] even like get into this you should understand that that was not the original intention right then the other [68:52] thing that that we see here that a lot of people you know what I'm saying Miss what this means is a man is going [68:59] to leave his family his mom and dad his brothers and sisters and then his [69:06] priority becomes his wife in terms of family right that is important and [69:13] sometimes that's difficult for people to deal with but that priority become the wife and the same thing goes for the a [69:19] lot of people don't realize this the same thing goes for the woman we don't to get it but in Genesis you see laan [69:27] laan had his daughters right and when it was time for Jacob to move on he took [69:34] his his wives with him right he took both his wives with him and their servants and their handmaids and they [69:41] went right and laan was looking like oh man you stole away my [69:47] daughters well no they are married to this man grab um grab s for me Psalm [69:56] 45 Psalm chapter 45 give me verse [70:11] 10 right because some people you got you gotta marriage you got to deal with [70:17] marriage in so many different sides you got to deal with it from from the parent [70:22] who is losing their daughter that's what laan was dealing with like this is my baby girl these are my baby girls like [70:30] both of these I raised these young ladies I raise them to be right I raise [70:35] them these are my girls and now Jacob come in and he take my girls from me and he chasing out like [70:43] man listen these children that y'all those are my grandchildren and you just stole everybody away at night but no he [70:51] didn't steal nothing those are that's his family that's his priority now that's his responsibility now no longer [70:58] labens right this is uh Psalm 45 verse 10 watch what the book say [71:05] hearken oh daughter and consider and incline thine ear forget also thine own people in thy father's house right he [71:12] said forget also thine own people and thy Father's [71:17] House forget them watch what he say next so shall [71:23] King greatly desire thy Beauty for he is thy Lord and worship thou him and the [71:28] right he said look change your mind set instead of being under your daddy and [71:34] and honoring the people she might be from isachar I'm like oh yeah I'm from isachar this that another and she [71:40] glorying that my whole family from isachar right then guess what books say [71:47] forget that stuff forget your family and forget your [71:54] father's house go to your king right and worship [72:00] him in other words be subject to your king to your [72:06] husband right so it's not just the man right it's a man you know the mom is always gonna look the mom it ain't gonna [72:13] be so much the dad it's usually gonna be the mama the mama is always gonna have a problem with her her her baby boy going [72:20] out finding a way the woman often times is not going to be good enough for him I mean for [72:27] her right for the for the mom looking at her son go find a wife She gonna look at [72:33] that thing and be like she ain't good enough she ain't good enough that's not a good situation constantly you you [72:39] already know we know how that one play out all the time right the one that people don't know about is the other one [72:45] right you got to get out your daddy house as a woman and you got to forget your family [72:54] because that's often times an argument it's like oh this the tradition of my family is that another if if your [73:00] husband ain't down with that foolishness you got to forget that stuff I don't care what y'all do every [73:07] Easter right it's a new Heritage now you got a new king [73:15] now so it's the husband and the wife both got to leave their father and mother right and then the two become one [73:23] flesh that's what yahushua is explaining so divorce was not a [73:28] thing right let's go back this is this is uh Mark chapter 10 what verse we leave [73:35] off uh nine this is verse 9 Mark chapter 10 verse 9 watch what the book [73:52] say [74:02] what therefore God has joined together let no man put a under and in the house of his disciples asked him again of the [74:09] same matter and he said unto them whosoever shall put away his wife and marry another commits adultery against [74:16] right so if you put away your wife and marry another wife right this is the man [74:21] right so if a man put away his he say yo we divorced right and then he marries [74:28] another one the book say he commits adultery that's what yahua is explaining to us right keep [74:35] going and if a woman shall put away her husband and be married to another she commits adultery right and if a woman [74:42] makes the decision you know what I'm done with this situation I'm putting you away right first of all it's some people [74:48] that teach that a woman can't do that that's not law right you see yahushua saying it right right here a woman can [74:54] make a decision to put away to to split off and to put away her husband right however if she makes that decision she [75:01] commit adultery if she go and get another one and so does the husband so on both sides if you put your wife away [75:09] or if your wife put you away on both sides if you go get another one then guess [75:15] what that's adultery keep going watch this and they brought young children to [75:21] him that he should touch them oh no we good we good so this is what yahua is [75:27] telling you there is no divorce right but Moses gave for the [75:33] hardness of the heart one reason right grab um Deuteronomy chapter [75:40] 24 Deuteronomy chapter 24 [75:52] verse1 and then we going to we going to look at a little Visual [75:58] and see if we can make this make a little bit of [76:18] sense it's Deuteronomy chapter 24 verse1 [76:26] when a man has taken a wife and married her and it come to pass that she find no favor in his eyes because Heath found [76:32] some uncleanness in her let him write her a bill of divorcement and give it in her hand and send her out of his house [76:38] and when she is departed out of his house she may go and be another man's wife and if the latter husband hate her [76:44] and write her a bill of divorcement and giveth in her hand and sended her out of his house or if the latter husband died [76:51] which took her to be his wife her former husband which sent her away may not take her again to be his wife and after that [76:57] she is defiled for that is an Abomination before Yahweh and thou shalt not cause the land to sin which the Lord [77:03] thy God gives thee for an inheritance right so basically the book is [77:08] saying there's one reason for uh divorce which is uncleanness is how the law law [77:15] defines it right uncleanness right so if for uncleanness he say nope I'm divorcing you then she can go get [77:22] another husband and that's what the book just told you she can go get another husband and he can go get another wife [77:29] right and then the book said if then after that she go get another husband [77:36] and he finds uncleanness in her same thing uncleanness in her that means whatever this offense was and we'll talk [77:42] about what it what it would be whatever this offense was she did it twice right [77:48] the man who divorced her originally can't go back to her [77:54] right that's the file land this is uh this is uh on the screen [78:00] you know what I'm saying I'mma go ahead and make it a little bigger so everybody can see [78:06] it put this over here [78:12] maybe right so this what we're looking at here is what we call a flowchart [78:19] right so it's a series of logical ological you know flows and this is a [78:25] flowchart based off of the book right so we going to start here right and this is how this is how marriage works this is [78:32] how you can understand it you start off you either a unic or a virgin right a unic is a male that that hasn't had sex [78:39] a virgin would be a female that hasn't have sex right then from there you [78:44] either are going to commit fornication or not so if we say fornication yes right that would make that person a [78:50] whoremonger or harlot right if you say fornication no then [78:57] they just me need to make the decision of are they going to remain unmarried or not even if you end up being a harlot [79:04] you still got to make the same decision am I goingon to be a harlot and remain unmarried or not if you decide that [79:10] you're gonna remain unmarried then that's it you know what I'm saying you either unmarried Harlot or unmarried [79:15] whoremonger or unmarried unic or virgin right but everything stops there right [79:22] then you can decide to marry if I don't want to remain unmarried then you can decide [79:28] to be married at the um at the end of at the consummation of that marri marriage [79:36] the husband has an opportunity right he has an opportunity [79:42] to say my wife is not a virgin she lied about being a virgin right so if she [79:50] lies according to our law right if she lies about being a virgin that's what this is talking about when it says put [79:56] her away right privately what we just read in Deuteronomy chapter 21 241 it's [80:02] talking about lying about virginity right it's saying this is what it's talking about right it's saying that she [80:09] was a harlot decided to be married but told her husband that she [80:17] was a virgin if she lied about that that's the uncleanness that Deuteronomy 241 and we [80:23] know that because of Matthew chapter 10 so let's grab it really quick this is Matthew chapter 10 verse [80:32] 4 all right Matthew chapter 10 [80:51] verse4 [80:56] Simon the Canaanite in Judah is scariot who also betrayed him [81:02] these 12 yahu sent forth and commanded them saying go not into the way of the Gentiles and into any city of the [81:07] Samaritans enter ye not but go rather to the lost sheep of the House of Israel and as you go preach saying the Kingdom [81:13] of Heaven is at hand heal the sick cleanse the lepers raise the Dead cast out Devils freely ye have received and [81:19] freely give provide neither gold nor silver nor brass in your purses nor script for your journey [81:26] neither two coats neither shoes nor yet stayes for the Workman is wor worthy of [81:32] his meat and into whatever whatsoever City uh that's not what I want 19 verse 19 I mean chapter 19 not not [81:43] 10 is Matthew chapter [81:51] 19 and give me verse vers [81:57] four and he answered and said unto them have you not read that he which made [82:02] them at the beginning made them male and female and said for this PA shall a man leave father and mother and shall cleave [82:08] to his wife and they to shall become one flesh where they are no more two but one [82:14] flesh what therefore God has join together let no man put us under and [82:19] they say unto him why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement and to put her away he said unto them [82:26] Moses because of the hardness of your heart suffered you not to put away your suffered you to put away your wives but [82:32] from the beginning it was not so and I say unto you whosoever shall put away his wife except it be for fornication [82:38] and shall marry except it be for what fornication except it be for fornication [82:43] watch this and shall marry another commits adultery and whoever so look some people would tell us that [82:49] fornication and adultery are the same thing here but why in the world would he use two different words [82:55] then let's just read it if fornication and adultery are the same thing right if they saying any any woman that commits [83:03] adultery and a man put her away right if it's not for adultery then he commits [83:09] adultery right let's just read it that way let's read it one more time and I say unto you whosoever shall put away [83:16] his wife except it be for adultery and shall marry another commits [83:21] adultery right wouldn't that make a lot more sense and it be simpler if it just [83:26] said it listen any woman who commits adultery right then that means that [83:32] somebody else gonna commit adultery that's that's pretty much what you would be saying if you think fornication here [83:38] means the same thing as adultery but let's read it the other way if fornication mean the same thing as adultery let's see let's say let's say [83:44] both times of fornication now and I said to whosoever shall put away his wife except it be for [83:50] fornication and shall marry another commits fornication right that would be [83:56] simpler that would make perfect sense if they meant the same thing that the same word was used but it doesn't mean the [84:03] same thing fornication is talking about uncommitted sex right it could also mean idolatry [84:11] you know in the way that the most high God use it but this is talking about uncommitted sex right so now he's saying [84:18] any man that commits fornication I mean any woman that commits fornication right which means she lied [84:25] about her virginity so she was unclean she fornicated she was a harlot and made [84:33] her husband think that she was a virgin if that happens then Deuteronomy [84:41] 24 um would be covered and he can put her away [84:47] privately right so that's what yahushua is talking about that's why he says fornication and adultery because it's [84:53] two separate things adultery is saying I'm married to you so he's saying if you [84:58] try to put her away for any reason other than her not being a virgin when you expected her to be a virgin then you [85:05] guys are still married therefore when she goes gets and gets another husband or you go get another wife you're [85:10] committing adultery because you're still married to your first wife right that's why he used the word [85:16] adultery there and he used fornication because he's describing an event that happened before they were married he [85:22] thought he was getting a virgin he wasn't really getting a virgin she lied to him he found uncleanness in her [85:28] because she did not behave like a virgin right so then let's talk about [85:35] that law right so we married she lied about her virginity let's say yes she lied about her virginity he can decide [85:42] whether he wants to put her away privately and then divorce her which would be the only true reason for [85:48] divorce right or the only other route would be he can make a public spectacle [85:55] of her so let's go to Deuteronomy [86:01] 22:3 right there's only two ways to handle when a wife lies about her [86:08] virginity only two ways to deal with [86:15] it and why the brother is getting that if we think about this situation right and we look at we have [86:24] the bill of divorcement that Moses allows right you can handle it two ways we about to read the second way but the [86:29] first way you can handle it is you could write a bill of divorcement right if we look at that and we say okay I have the [86:35] bill of divorcement I thought I was getting a virgin she lied to me it's not a virgin she's not a virgin I'mma go [86:41] ahead and put her away privately right that's what Joseph was about to do to Mary when Mary got pregnant with [86:47] yahushua he thought that oh you you not really a virgin [86:53] you wasn't really a virgin cuz I haven't laid with you yet so he is like you know what I'm [86:59] going go ahead and put you away privately he was about to give her a bill of divorcement cuz he's like we haven't even came together yet you're [87:05] not a virgin we're betroll right but you're not a virgin so I'm about to write a bill of divorcement [87:10] I'm calling this thing off right he's going to do it privately that's one way that you can [87:17] handle it right you could do it privately now we about to look at the other way all right this is um this is [87:25] uh Deuteronomy chapter 22: [87:31] 13 If any man take a wife and go in unto her and hate [87:36] her and give occasions of speech against her and bring up an evil name upon her and say I took this woman and when I [87:42] came to her I found her not a maid right so another when it says not a maid he's [87:47] talking about a virgin not a virgin right so I took this woman I went on to I thought I was getting a virgin and I [87:53] found out that was a lie so that's here right she lied about her virginity right now he can make the decision to use [88:00] Deuteronomy 21 uh 24 and put her away privately by writing her a bill of divorce or if he don't want to do this [88:08] watch what happens then shall the father of the damsel and her mother take and bring forth the tokens of the damsel virginity [88:15] unto the Elders of the city and the gate right so now the parents of the daughter [88:21] have to defend her and they have to take the tokens so if they have the tokens [88:27] and they take it to the gate let's see what happens and the deil's father shall say unto the elders I gave my daughter [88:33] unto this man to wife and he hates her and lo he has given occasions a speech against her saying I found not this not [88:39] thy daughter a made yet these are the tokens of thy daughter's virginity and they shall spread the cloth before the [88:46] Elders of the city and the Elders of the city shall take that man and chastise him and they shall immerse him in a 100 [88:52] shekels of silver and give them unto the father of the damsel because he has brought up an evil name upon a virgin of [88:57] Israel and she shall be his wife and he may not put her away all his days right so the way that this is [89:05] handled is you can put her away privately which means I'm not gonna I'm not going to bring any evil name I'm [89:11] just gonna between her and I write a bill of divorcement I'mma hand it to her [89:16] and then that's it right so that's one way to handle our wrer are a divorcement [89:23] hand it to her and that's it we call it a day or if I want to talk about it I'm [89:28] mad about this thing like you trick me I really loved you and now I I find out [89:33] you ain't even a virgin you've been lying to me this whole time right you've been a harlot this whole time you trick [89:39] me and I'm mad about it and I'm hurt and I start telling people about it I put her parents in in her in the uh a [89:47] position where they have to defend their s and if it comes to that that means that the parent have to prove her [89:52] virginity and at that point the man gets punished books say he get chastised and [89:59] he cannot put her away he has to be her husband because he took her virginity then remember this only happens after he [90:06] lays with her so that means that he took her virginity and he lied and tried to make it seem like somebody else took her [90:11] virginity and now he has to get chastised so he get beat he got to pay the uh the father and at the same time [90:18] he still got to take care of her for the rest of his life according to our law right those are the two ways to handle [90:25] it but let's keep going and let's see what happens if uh if she she the [90:31] parents can't defend her but if this thing be true and the [90:37] tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of the father's house and the men of her City shall Stone her [90:44] with stones that she died because she has rough Folly in Israel to play the in her father's house so shalt thou put away put evil away from among [90:51] you so now you can see these purple ones is where the process kind of stops right so [90:58] once the woman is stoned that's good that's that's done so now the man is [91:04] loosed from The Vow because the woman would be dead at this point she was [91:09] stoned for telling a lie so now he can go remarried because his wife is no longer living right other than that if [91:17] she can prove then he cannot put her away [91:23] right this is the only path when it comes to marriage if you're going to be divorced it's going to be because you [91:30] expected to get a virgin and turned out that wouldn't be the case today I don't even think that's [91:37] a ever expectation right but if if there were a situation where it was an [91:43] expectation this would be the only reason that you could truly divorce somebody they told you they was a virgin [91:49] and it turns out that they really wasn't a virgin they lied to you right under those conditions that is a valid divorce [91:57] right the most high God would honor that divorce um then you have uh so if we go [92:06] here right once we get past that right there's only other one other way out the [92:11] only other way out is that the woman is is is is dead right so let's say we get past that now you're married can't put [92:19] her away but adultery is alleged right so somebody say you know what there's [92:25] adultery going on right there's laws for us to handle this scenario too both have to be caught [92:33] right go to uh keep reading in Deuteronomy uh and and let's read about [92:41] adultery Deuteronomy chapter 22 if a man be found lying with a woman [92:48] married to a husband then they shall both both of them die both the man that [92:54] lay with the woman and the woman so shall thou put away evil from Israel right so both of them have to be [93:02] stoned both have to be caught and both have to be stoned right if you only catch one [93:10] that's unlawful go to Leviticus 20:10 it'll tell you the same thing it's Leviticus 20 verse [93:20] 10 [93:34] and the man that committed adultery with another man's wife even he that committed adultery with his neighbor's [93:39] wife the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death all right so both of them have to [93:47] be put to death if you only C catch one our law does not cover [93:53] that right grab real Qui grab uh grab John chapter [93:59] 8 real quick this is John chapter 8 we can go ahead and start at verse [94:07] one a lot of people don't understand this remember yahushua has to keep the [94:13] law right the law is not just made up of of um the law is not just made made up [94:21] of uh Commandments it's also made up of judgments in other words if something [94:27] happens that's against the commandment and the most high God gives a judgment in other words this is what's supposed [94:33] to happen if there is adultery both have to be brought in and both have to be stoned that is a [94:40] judgment if that judgment is not fulfilled you didn't keep the law either so y'u yahua for him to fulfill the law [94:48] he would have had to keep the whole law now watch watch how he deals with this adultery situation this is John 8 verse1 [94:56] Yu wentto the Mount of Olives and early in the morning he came again into the temple and all the people came unto him [95:02] and he sat down and taught them and the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery and when they [95:07] set her in the mid they said unto him Master this woman was taken in adultery in the very act now Moses in the law [95:13] commanded us that such should be stoned but what do you say what what sayest [95:18] thou this they said tempting him that they might have to accuse him but yua stood down with his finger and wrote [95:25] on the ground as though he heard them not so when they continued asking him to lift himself up when they continued [95:32] asking him he lift himself up and said unto them he that is without sin among you let him cast the first [95:39] stone that her and again he stooped down and rode on the ground and they which heard it [95:46] being convicted by their own conscience went out one by one beginning at the eldest even until the last and yua was [95:52] left alone and the woman standing in the midst when yua had lift himself up and saw no one but the woman he said unto [95:57] Heroman where are those thine accusers hath no man condemned thee he said no [96:03] man Lord and yashu said unto her neither do I condemn thee go and send no [96:08] more that is lawful and there's two reasons why that ended up being lawful [96:13] for him although adultery is a sin and the Judgment for adultery according to [96:19] our law is both have to be captured and both have to be stoned right that's the [96:24] law but he did he did something very clever there right the first thing he [96:30] said y'all want to Stone her cool whoever is without sin you start it off [96:36] kick it off for us right the one who don't got no sin you never sin before [96:41] you be the first one to throw the stone right then after that nobody wanted to start it [96:47] off because they would be convicting theyel because they know that they sinned off also so then amongst let's [96:53] say amongst the people was the person who was caught in adultery wither he walked off if he was there [97:02] right then now there's only yahushua left and the woman [97:08] left so now not only do you not have the person who she committ adultery with [97:14] which is against the law but now you also don't have two or three [97:20] Witnesses is just yahua here and he didn't witness it so now he said look [97:26] not only do we not have witnesses but we also don't have a person you committed adultery with I don't condemn you that's [97:35] lawful right but what they were doing initially was unlawful because they were trying to bring a woman but they didn't [97:42] bring the man and they say they caught her so that was unlawful from the very [97:50] beginning I like to imagine what he wrote down was the law you know what I'm saying like bring both of them you know [97:57] what I'm saying so which one of y'all committed adultery with her right I think that's the message [98:02] that he was trying to give off and then they all walked away right so you'll see that to to for [98:10] this law to be in effect right you have to catch both so if we go back to our [98:15] flow right we're both caught all right cool both stoned if both stoned then the [98:20] h hband that was married or the wife that was married to the adulterous uh man or the the adulterous woman then [98:29] they free right their spouse is dead they can be [98:35] remarried then you go down the other path and say both cult no right then you have the law of [98:42] jealousy and we don't have to read it right now but Numbers Chapter 5 there's a process that if a husband is is is [98:50] looking at his wife and he feels that she C she committed adultery maybe he he didn't catch her in the ACT but [98:56] everybody telling him that she did right and he jealous he can't prove it but he jealous of it right then there's a [99:02] process where the wife she goes into the to the priest he makes her drink water from the temple right and that water if [99:11] she commits adultery is said to to curse her her bow so to curse her her stomach and to curse her thighs in other words [99:17] it'll prevent her from from uh being able to give uh uh give birth right but [99:24] he can't put her away he can't divorce her for this right the law of jealousy don't say nothing about being able to [99:29] divorce it just say that she gonna be cursed right and then if that's not the [99:36] case if he don't do the law of jealousy got to put my not here right if he don't do the law of jealousy then he just has [99:42] to be reconciled to his wife so these are the only ways out of [99:47] marriage it's going to be death right or you you stay with them all [99:53] right the only other way is if you thought you was getting a virgin beforehand you [99:59] divorce right there's no other options this covers everything in our law when it comes to divorce and when it come to [100:05] marriage and all this stuff so anybody who come up to you with anything else they either they're mistaken on the law [100:11] which happens right it happens because we we learning this stuff this you know we we learned this stuff from Christians and now we got to try to sort through it [100:17] and kind of figure it out it's not like we have fathers where we can pass down the correct understanding of this word [100:23] we're having to dig through this stuff and and we doing it with our brains kind of Tainted with all these different [100:29] traditions and beliefs and false doctrines and all this stuff so we we make mistakes we going to look at it we [100:35] GNA make mistakes I'm letting you know this is without mistake right you look at it this is the scripture detailed it [100:43] tells you every scenario how to deal with it in each scenario you can't make it up as you go right if you put away [100:50] your wife and it's for um it's for fornication in other words she was unclean before y'all [100:56] got married then guess what she can go get another husband you can go get another wife that's book go uh grab go [101:04] back to to Deuteronomy chapter [101:11] 24 let's go back to Deuteronomy chapter 24 where we leave [101:18] off uh four verse [101:23] four so let's read Deuteronomy chapter 24 give me verse three and if the ha her [101:29] and write her a bill of divorcement and gives it in her hand and sends her out of his house or if the latter husband die which took her to be his wife her [101:36] former husband which sent her away may not take her again to be his wife after that she is defiled for that is an [101:42] Abomination before the Lord and thou shalt not cause the land to sin which the Lord thy God gives thee for an [101:47] inheritance right so now this is I'm about to prove Pro to y'all right I'm about to prove to y'all that this law is [101:55] not talking about adultery right it's not talking about [102:00] adultery it's only talking about fornication and fornication means that she was unclean before they got [102:08] married right I'm about to prove that to y'all because he just said that if she [102:14] goes and gets another husband after he divorces her he cannot bring her [102:23] back so if that uncleanness is talking about uh this is our law right so if [102:29] that uncleanness is also including adultery there's going to be a problem because we know David only sinned in one [102:35] matter right grab that this is uh this is uh First Kings [102:43] 15 First Kings 15 give me verse 5 First Kings [102:49] 155 [103:02] because David did that which was right in the eyes of the Lord and turned not aside from anything that he commanded him all the days of his life Save Right [103:09] all the days of his life books say he turned not aside from anything that yah [103:15] commanded right except for what save only in the matter ofah the hittite [103:21] so the stuff relating to there's multiple sins there be clear right there's multiple sins that he committed [103:27] when it came to UAH but the only sins he committed are related to yah the hittite [103:34] and the book say all the days of his life so anything that we read if we [103:39] think David sin we have to reinterpret we have to take a closer examination of that because the book says very clearly [103:46] he only sined in the stuff that's related to Uriah the hitti right so now [103:52] let's think about what David did grab um grab 1st Samuel chapter 18 give me verse [104:00] 20 let's just walk through David's history real [104:10] quick actually jump jump uh to 1 Samuel 25 1st Samuel [104:18] 25:44 right in 18 what we going to read is you know David um he killed a bunch [104:25] of the Philistines according to agreement that he and Saul had and uh [104:30] Saul was supposed to give him his daughter his daughter ended up being given to somebody else so then he gave [104:36] him a different daughter her name is Michael right mall [104:41] mall right so mall he took her gave her to to [104:47] David David has her that's his wife now let's look at uh 1st Samuel CH [104:54] 25:44 when Saul had given my call his daughter David's wife to py Pai the son [105:01] of Lees which was of gim so now my call ends up getting [105:10] remarried they're still married though but she has another husband is that proper no so that means [105:20] that that's adultery right if the uncleanness that we're [105:27] talking about in 24 in Deuteronomy 24 includes adultery if adultery is a valid [105:35] reason to divorce as some people will say right but if that's the case then [105:43] that means that David cannot bring this wife back right because it tells you if [105:49] she go get get married to another man then he can't she she can't come [105:55] back but watch this this is um this is [106:00] uh 2 Samuel chapter 3 this is after David you know what I'm saying he he [106:06] kind of took over the kingdom he went at War he made a deal with Abner right this [106:11] is 2 Samuel chapter 3 verse [106:18] 13 and he said well I will make a league with thee wait when he says League I'm [106:24] making an agreement or a covenant with you right so I'm making an agree I'm making a deal with you what's the deal [106:30] but one thing I require of thee that is Thou shalt not see my face except thou first bring my call Saul's daughter when [106:36] thou comest to see my face David sent Messengers to ishbosheth Saul's son saying deliver my wife M call which I [106:43] espouse to me for 100 foreskins of the Philistines and ISB sent and took him took her from her husband even [106:51] he took her from who her husband so she was [106:56] remarried right so took her from her husband and then what else happened halel the son of Lees and her [107:05] husband went with her along weeping behind her to Bear him then he crying behind her but but guess what she back [107:13] with the boy that would be unlawful this would be absolutely unlawful according to [107:20] Deuteronomy 24 if Deuteronomy 24 was talking about [107:26] adultery because what she would have been would would have been adultery and she married the guy that she committed [107:32] adultery with therefore David would not be able lawfully he would not be able to take her back if that was talking about [107:38] adultery however if it's talking about uncleanness that means that they were [107:44] never unmarried right if it's talking about [107:49] unclean this that means sure she still committed adultery but that's not what that law is saying that law says you [107:56] can't take her back if you divorce her for fornication he didn't divorce her for [108:03] fornication therefore she committed adultery but since she was originally his that's that's man's sin that's her [108:11] sin and that man's sin he can bring her [108:17] back and there's a whole deeper thing spiritually if we look at that right if we look at yahua look at everything he [108:23] there it's a whole deeper thing spiritually right but he can bring her back in this scenario because he [108:30] committed um or she committed adultery technically right now he's able to bring [108:36] her back and he has no sin right yah yah never charged him with sin even though the law was there before he did it right [108:44] so he would have had to be charged with sin had that been the case right if if if uncleanness included adultery then [108:52] that would be a sin for him to take her back this way most high God would have to send a prophet let him know like none and no the ground is defiled you can't [108:59] do that right it's important to make sure we understand our law very very clearly [109:06] because this is what the book is communicating to us all right go uh to to uh Malachi it's [109:15] Malachi chapter 2 we can end off with this Malachi chapter 2 verse3 [109:22] right there's a reason that the most high god did not give any other options for [109:29] divorce right and that's what yahushua was trying to allude to yahushua is saying it was not like this from the [109:37] beginning right that's not the way that the most high God set it up he didn't set it up to where the Two Become One [109:43] flesh and then they can be divided and be two flesh again that's not how he set it up he set it up where the Two Become [109:49] One flesh that's it that's done that's a done deal right this is Malachi chapter 2 give me [109:57] verse 13 and this have ye done again covering [110:03] the altar of the Lord with tears with weeping and with crying out in so much that he regardeth not the offering [110:09] anymore or receives it with Good Will at your hand yet ye say why because the [110:14] Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth right Yahweh has [110:19] been witness between you and the wife of your youth your young wife right the one [110:26] you had when you were young and happy and like oh man I love her so much most high God has been with he been watching [110:32] it that's what the book is saying he been watching what was happening there and what [110:44] happened you have dealt trustly yet is she thy companion and the wife of thy [110:51] Covenant and did not he make one yet he had yet he the residue of the spirit and [110:58] right so he said look he made one and gave them a little bit of the spirit right keep [111:05] going and wherefore one that he might seek a Godly seed therefore take heed to [111:10] your spirit and let none deal trustly against the wife of his youth for the Lord God of Israel saith [111:18] that he hateth putting away for one cover violence with his AR With His Garment sayth Yahweh of host therefore [111:25] take heed to your spirit that you deal not treacherously right so what he's telling [111:30] you is he hates putting away so that's the reason why he don't give you a whole bunch of oh you you you commit adultery [111:37] you can divorce her if you do this you could divorce he don't give you he only give you one reason if she did something [111:43] before you got there in other words if she tricked you before she got there and it relates to fornication [111:50] that one he said all right fine I'll let you out of that one but if that's not the case if it's any other situation [111:58] y'all stuck y'all stuck now under our law we have ways of addressing adultery so it [112:05] puts a man in a position where he has to say or a woman in a position where he says listen I caught you in the ACT do I [112:12] want you to die over this or not if I want you to die over this then [112:18] and I catch both of y'all then we can Stone you and I'll be released we can't do that now because we [112:24] don't have a righteous law you have a righteous law so that mean they gonna be living so you can't [112:29] do nothing about adultery you ain't even got no options you can't take her to the priest you know what I'm saying you [112:34] can't have her stoned you can't take him you know what I'm saying nowhere you can't take him to the gates you can't do [112:40] nothing and you can't have him stoned even if he is caught in the ey right so that means we [112:47] stuck we got to Choose Wisely and we got to communicate we got to do [112:52] whatever we got to do to work these types of situations out or we got to put them [112:58] away and remain reconciled to them meaning that we don't go get another one we don't try to get remarried we don't [113:05] deal with nobody else romantically we just deal like I'm not dealing with him I'm not dealing with her because they [113:12] situation for me was bad right drug use or abuse or whatever [113:18] it might be if it's like listen I can't deal with this I'm cutting it off that's fine cut it off don't go mess with [113:25] nobody else all right because I have put you in the position of [113:31] adultery all right any questions let me see I got out of the [113:42] chat all right y'all got questions go ahead send them in on the text line or [113:47] join us later on today for the fellowship uh Fellowship hour it's going to be um 4:00 Pacific time so just reach [113:55] out to me I'll give yall the information if you want it um but Sabbath peace I appreciate y'all please send in the [114:01] questions I'mma take this flowchart and figure out how to get it on the website that way everybody can look at it and uh [114:08] kind of share it around if you need to but yeah make sure you get an understanding on these things before you get married it is very very very serious [114:16] there's a lot of people that make the choices but they're not accountabil accountable to those choices right we [114:22] have to learn this stuff on the fire me brother T you know what I'm saying a lot of other brothers I know that's married you got learn this stuff on the Fly we a [114:29] not nobody that went through all this for us before we got married not in this way at least right not according to our [114:35] law not according to our scripture so now it's something that you can kind of take into consideration you can think [114:40] about before you make that step and if you want to make that step more power to you I appreciate you and the most high [114:46] God you know what I'm saying I personally believe anybody any two people people can make any marriage work [114:51] it's just a willingness to do it right sometime we be feeling like oh no that's a compromise oh no I'll be settling if [114:57] I'm doing that right and that's fine that's that's how you look at it in your mind if you look at it that way and it's gonna be difficult to make that type of [115:04] decision right but two people any two people I believe could do it if they [115:10] both wanted to do it and that's all it come down to do both of us want to do this right and if both of us want to do [115:16] it we can get through anything we can get over anything get through anything we can make it work all [115:22] right let's pray out