Marriage (Part 1) – Day of Atonement Special

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all right well let's get started uh you know I'm saying a peaceful day of atonement have a little special uh study for us to kind of go through marriage um and talk to a few three talk through a few things um so peace sister Pamela let us know if we sound all right make sure everything sound all right yeah but on the day of atonement we we kind of covered it on last Sabbath appreciate you boy um we covered you know day of atonement on the last Sabbath study so now that we've actually reached the actual day of atonement um as we recognize it uh now we only want to have another study um know know that when you go to you can go to the website you can check out the the the days and the way that we recognize the days um and there'll be a chart on the right hand side of that chart it'll tell you the sacred assembly it'll have a column that says sacred assembly and it'll say yes or no if it says sacred assembly just know that that record that that means that uh these are days that the most high God said there's no work right so you know when you're dealing with your jobs or you're planning out your year or whatever when you look at that if you want to align with how we recognize the days then um you can you can use that to understand when you when you need to take off work or just give it right to your boss or sending all your requests times your vacation PTO however you decide to do it you can also align with the calendar if you have Google Calendar your Apple calendar whatever um just click on the uh on the link that says download to your device and it'll put it right on your calendar for you um any questions as always just reach out to us uh but um hopefully all the brothers and sisters that's aligned with us on on this day of atonement on whenever they celebrate it that they have a peaceful fast it's the most high God uh blesses them uh but let's kind of get into marriage and the institution of marriage and try to understand a little bit of it so to do that we have to start at the very beginning um let's go to Genesis Genesis chapter 2. foreign [Laughter] by the way this is obviously y'all almost got me omo oh my look how easy it is almost it was that close almost son you didn't even protect me when I asked for water you just had it for me yeah all right first one you said I appreciate y'all um yeah let's do uh Genesis not verse one do uh verse 20. and Adam gave names to all cattle into the foul of the air into every beast of the field but for Adam there was not found to help meet for him and that's what God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept and he took one of his ribs and cloaked and closed up the flesh instead thereof and the rib which the Lord God had taken from man made he a woman and brought her unto the man Adam said this is now blown up my bones and Flesh of My Flesh she should he said this is now bone of my bone and Flesh of My Flesh right he looking out he naming all the animal he looked like yeah that's a cow there you know what I'm saying oh now I don't know that one right there I'm gonna call it uh I'm gonna call it a porcupine you know man like this one right here oh whoa alligator definitely alligator you know what I'm saying so he named anything and of course he's not naming him these English names but you know what I'm saying he's naming all these animals and he's giving them names and the most high God created the animals male and female when he created them right so he's giving them names they look and he like you know I'm saying I kind of like this little puppy you know what I'm saying I kind of liked it but it's just like none of this stuff fit me like I ain't got no companionship like they got right so the most like God said okay that's not he calls a deep sleep to go on pulled a rib up out the man you know what I'm saying that he made a woman for him from him and then when he looked at the woman he is like she came from me he said this is Flesh of My Flesh bone of my bone right it felt special to him that's why he's saying that it felt special because it's like she came from me right let's see watch this one second one second the family said that piggy I do drink with the pinky up boy oh I was ready I was ready almost got me uh where are we at oh and the red which the Lord God had taken from man made he a woman and brought her unto the man and Adam said this is now bone of my bones and flesh in my flesh she shall be called woman because she was taken out of man therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh right so he said a man is going to leave his father and his mother and then what he's going to end up doing that he's gonna cleave in other words he's going to attack himself to his wife but the next part said then they shall be one flesh so they gonna be just like one all right they gonna just be be just like one those two right when y'all she would talk about it the two shall become one flesh that's that you so we can talk about you know I'm saying the um a husband having multiple wives and all that will will get to that right but in the beginning you look at it says the two shall be have shall have one flesh right the two shall be one flesh and so that was an honor that's what he looked at this was something that that Adam appreciated and this is this is the first marriage right this is the the first time that the most hot guy kind of displayed marriage in the in the form man so you have those two and if you look at it from the very beginning if you look at uh let's go to uh chapter one back to chapter one I want to say it's verse 27. might be 25 start me at 25 just in case guys Genesis chapter 1 verse 25 and God made the Beast of the earth after his kind and cattle after their kind and everything that creeps upon the Earth after his kind and God saw that it was good and God said let us make man in our image after our likeness and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the fowl of the air and over the cattle and over all the Earth and over every creeping thing that creeps upon the Earth so God created man in his own image in the image of God created he him male and female created he them right so he created him in the image of yah male and female created he them right so the male and female are the image of the most high God right when he says man he was talking about Adam he's talking about all the people right he created Mankind in the image of yeah right then after that he says male and female he created them so he split mankind into male and female you don't get to the image of yah without both right grab um grab uh grab uh uh Proverbs chapter 8 verse I don't know his verse one it might be down maybe verse 20 or something like that but see see what verse 1 say first let's see it's Proverbs chapter 8 verse one we got a lot to cover it's a lot foreign that comes along with with marriage right not just wisdom from from understanding you know how marriage works and what the most high God has to say about marriage but it takes a lot of wisdom to to um to properly you know to participate in a marriage you know and so we uh we want to you know make sure that we take our time with it and it's a whole lot of uh it's a whole lot of information that we can deliver as we talk about this topic this is uh Proverbs chapter eight let's see what verse one says does not wisdom cry and understanding put forth her voice look how is wisdom considered he said male and female created he them and then he refers to wisdom as what as a her he said her voice this is intentional watch this she's standeth in the top on high places by the way in places of the past she cries at the gates at the entry of the city and of coming in of the doors mm-hmm unto you oh man I call and my voice is to the sons of man oh ye simple understand wisdom and ye fools be of an understanding heart if I will speak of excellent things in the opening of my lips shall be right things but my mouth shall speak truth the wickedness is an Abomination to my lips all the words of my mouth are in righteousness there is nothing forward or perverts in them right so this is this is the same wisdom that the most high God is using the testify of yahushua right this same wisdom the most hot guy is using to testify of yahushua but he yet calls it uh her when we talk about Nations right when he talks about Israel he categorizes Israel as a nation as the female right so these are things even us right we are his bride as a nation right so it's it's important that we understand marriage not just from not just from a practical sense although it's very important that we understand marriage from from a for from a practical sense but that practical sense now informs the prophetic sense right when we look at at the prophecy around marriage and how the most high God spoke to us through the prophets if we don't really understand marriage then it becomes difficult to understand the similar tools that he presents in front of us through the prophets and through the proverbs right so it's a reason why a woman has chosen this Whip or a female is chosen as to represent the the wisdom and to represent the nation right because the most high God has covenants and agreements and relationships with these Concepts right and the most high God is always going to represent the man right the male so let's look at it this is um this is uh let's go to Proverbs chapter 18. in Proverbs 8 is a good read if you guys you know I recommend you guys read Proverbs 8 on your own time is Proverbs chapter 8 let's do I mean 18. let's do verse 22. who so findeth the wife findeth a good thing and obtains favor of yahuwah all right so this is spoken to us the the audience here would be a man right so a man who finds a wife he finds a good thing right and and he gonna have favor to to yahuwah there's benefits to marriage right it's it's things this there's a this is something that the most hot guys set up from the very beginning and this is something that is to be desired by a man and by a woman right it is something to be desired but before we go deep into you know how much marriage is to be desired we need to be able to look at things on the opposite side as well because perhaps marriage is something that is not for everyone right we don't have to get it but yahushua said uh he spoke to us about a unit right and he he gave us a couple situations some of which those situations were a man can make himself a eunuch right in other words a man a eunuch being someone who who um you know like the most literal sense of the eunuch is is someone who either was born or uh someone you know mutilated them to where they don't have their genitals right so you could you could be born deformed and your genitals don't work properly or you don't have genitals right or someone can you know I'm saying attack you or you know I'm saying mutilate you in the sense that you don't have your genitals but y'all she also brought up another situation that a person makes himself a unit right meaning that this person constrains himself that he doesn't have those that type of romantic interaction right that try but let's say that sexual uh romantic interaction right so a man can make himself to you to say no I don't want to be married right I just want to remain to myself and that's a part that I don't think is talked about a lot and uh Paul also explained he expounded more on that about how the one that you know Stacy himself does better matter of fact let's get it that's uh First Corinthians chapter seven give me about verse 25. let's see what Paul has to say on the topic it's First Corinthians chapter 7 verse 25. this is the side of things that I don't think is spoken about much I think marriage is always kind of held up as this is the goal this should be the goal for everybody you're the guys who promote multiple wives it's all about nation building nation building Nation build building we'll get to all that right and and I think the idea behind it is hey grow be fruitful how can you do that um lawfully or righteously unless you are married right but let's look at the other side let's look at the wisdom that Paul has given us as well this is uh First Corinthians chapter 7 verse 25. now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord yet I give my judgment as one that has look so pay attention throughout we're going to read a lot in First Corinthians chapter seven and you'll see that the most high God is leading Paul to to present things one of two ways right hey this is what God is saying not me or this is what I am saying not God right he makes that distinction he's saying the things that I'm saying this is my advice this is based off of off of my life experiences and my wisdom from the book and he gonna tell you at the very end and he's gonna be like and I think I have the spirit of God kind of being you know I'm saying a little procedure like you know and I think I had a spirit of God when I tell you these things I know what I'm talking about yeah you know what I'm saying I'm not just I'm not just running my mouth now you know what I'm saying like I'm the man I got you don't worry about it you know what I'm saying so he's like I think I have the spirit of God but he still makes that separation this is documented I can prove this to you from the book this is just based off of what I understand from the book this is my advice to you based off my experience what I think will work better in the time that we live in all that right that's his opinion right so pay attention to that as we talk I'll try to call it up as we read it too okay now concerning versions I have no commandment of the Lord yet I give my judgment as one that has obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful pose therefore that this is good for the present distress I say that it is good for a man so to be Thou Art Thou bound to a wife seek not to be loosed all right so he said if you're married right bound to a wife don't seek to be loose in other words don't seek to be a part this is his advice he's saying this is what I'm telling you from my judgment if you are married don't seek to be unmarried right watch this art thou bound to a wife seek not to be loose or thou loosed from a wife seek not a wife right if you are loose from a wife in other words if you're not married for whatever reason right and you're not married don't go looking for a wife this is his advice right this is his advice based off of his experience is what he know of the book and his judgment right go ahead keep going but but and if you marry thou has not sinned and if a Virgin Mary she has not sinned never right so he's he's making it clear that if he this is my advice but if you end up doing if you end up going against my advice that's not a sin he's telling you flat out what you what I'm I'm advising you it is if you not married don't go trying to get married that's my advice but if you do go get married that's not a sin all right keep going nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh but I spare you right he says such shall have trouble in this in the flesh but I spare you so in other words he said listen if you do it you're going to have other challenges in the flesh that I'm trying to spare you from this is while I'm this is why I'm giving you this judgment this is why I'm giving you my advice right if you ask me how I would do it this is how I would do it if you do it the other way you're not sinning but I think you're gonna have some problems with the flesh right so before I got married I spent a year where I when I learned what the scriptures were saying I wasn't married and I went a whole year with the understanding of us of the scriptures not being married then when I got married this made so much more sense because when I was by myself in the scriptures all of those fleshly challenges I didn't have a whole new level of fleshly challenges came after I got married so I know like I I thought about this verse a lot after I got married like I didn't have these Temptations and struggles you know when I was just single just reading the word you know what I mean so I mean that was tough too that was tough too so um but it's just certain things that you can deal with just know what you can and can't deal with and to me it was much easier when I was single but I'm not sure I'm not seeking to be loosed either so I just understand you know from experience what he means by that all right let's keep going he'll explain more but this I say my brother and the time is short it remains that both days that have wives be as though they had none and they that weep as though they weep not and they that rejoice as though they Rejoice not and they that buy as though they possess not right so he's saying the time is short in other words the world's about to end is what Paul's trying to tell you right he's like man the world about to end it's gonna be even if you got a wife it's like gonna be like you don't have one because he did like the commitment that it's going to take everything that you bought it's gonna be as if you don't have any possessions right he said it's gonna take that level of commitment in the last days right so he's telling you that the time is short because in his mind he's looking like this thing can happen any day the time is short you got to prepare yourself to make it into this Kingdom right keep going watch this and they that use this world as not abusing it for the fashion of this world passes away I would have you without carefulness he that is unmarried cares for the things that belong to the Lord and how he may please the Lord pay attention this is what brother T was just talking about right so he says I will have you without carefulness when when the book talks about carefulness it's talking about worrying right so he's saying I will have you without worrying he right let's read it again he that is unmarried cares for the things that belongs to the Lord how he may please the Lord right so he's saying the righteous man that is unmarried right just like Brother G was talking about can focus on yah right my only worry is like I don't have additional responsibilities right if if right this moment if I was single right and a prophet came to me and said get up go to Washington DC you know what I'm saying and tell yeah I'm saying and tell Senator so and so thus says yahuwah right if he just popped up to me right now in a vision or a dream and I was unmarried and told me pick up and go spend six months on your side you know I'm saying lay on your back on Capitol Hill for six months you know what I'm saying proclaiming X Y and Z you have to like me I just be like I got that you know what I'm saying how much your ticket cost let's do it right it wouldn't be no thought I wouldn't have to worry about anything else because I'm only responsible for myself right I don't have any other worries I just have to go I pick up and like you know what sold my house dude that's another got a little money I can go now if if that same vision come to me right now is a lot more to consider that exact same vision I got okay well hold on that's an argument now what do you mean you can go quit your job okay cool I know babe but I gotta do it got it okay my baby gonna be with me she's gonna be like okay I'm gonna hold it down you're gonna get it but now when I'm there what am I thinking about when I'm laying on my back man I wonder what my kids is doing you know what I'm saying when I'm taking my call I'll take a call oh yeah no you should have saw zakai today he was in t-ball he hit the ball what that's gonna do to me man I wish I could have been there see my boy hit the ball right there's attachments that comes with the family and so now although that's a beautiful thing and it's a blessing from the most high God when it comes down to choosing between yeah and choosing between the family that is a Temptation that is a difficult situation right and Paul recognizes that and he's saying listen although you don't sin by having a family and by getting married and do all these things he said it's not a sin right my judgment is because of the distress of this time right he's saying because of what I know how this thing is about to play out in my opinion you be better off staying single because in that you can put all of your focus towards yahuwah right this is something that's not talked about enough right it's something that we should all consider in Paul saying it for a reason it makes sense right hold we got right there grab uh grab um Matthew chapter 19. this is Matthew chapter 19 down down towards the bottom like uh versus uh in fact it'll be exactly verse 28. Matthew Chapter 19 Verse 28. we'll we'll go we'll come back to Matthew chapter 19 later but let's get verse 28 right now because I want you to see that what Paul is telling you as his advice is he's not pulling it out of thin air right he's not pulling us in there you have to understand what yahushua said as well this is Matthew Chapter 19 Verse 28. and y'all should have said unto them barely I say unto you that ye which have followed me in the Regeneration when the son of man shall sit on the throne of his glory he also shall sit upon 12 Thrones judging of tribes of Israel everyone that has forsaken houses or Brethren or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands for my name's sake shall receive a hundredfold and shall inherit everlasting life but many so y'all sure it's rewarding folks right he's saying I'm gonna give you a hundred times what you left if you left your wife your child your mom your dad your family your land your how all these different things for me I'm gonna give you a hundredfold so y'all sure recognizes that this is difficult because he's telling you if you do it I'm gonna reward you a hundred times for that right had it if it weren't a big deal yahushua wouldn't have said that he wouldn't have tried to incentivize you to do it but he had to because he knows that that's a difficult choice to leave your family behind grab a Luke 14. I don't know where this one is this one's probably maybe 27. Luke 14 maybe 27 and maybe further up than not actually it may be like nine what's the last verse in Luke 14. is it 50 something it is 30 something pages right now it is 35 35 so yeah it's probably gonna be like Luke 14 maybe verse 14 or 15. you know what I'm looking for right you um if it should come if any man come to me and hate not yeah yeah yeah yeah what verse is it 25 25 okay this is Luke Chapter 14 verse 25 watch the book say and there went great multitudes with him and he turned and said unto them if any man come to me and hate not his father and mother and wife and children and Brethren and sisters yay in his own life also he cannot be my disciple right so he's telling you first of all you see he he never gives you any conditions on being his Christian you know what I'm saying on being his Hebrew Israelite that don't mean nothing all this stuff we call ourselves that stuff don't mean nothing call yourself with the book called you a disciple right we are disciples we're not Christians we're not Hebrews we're likes we're not Baptists we're not Catholics all this wild stuff these people and taught us we're disciples that's what the man called us call us what the book called us period right but he said the condition on being his disciples you got to be willing he say hate right but what he's saying is you have to be willing to leave right to be seen as someone who hates your family you have to be willing for that because that's why people that's why people are going to describe us right if I up right now left my family people be like man that boy's a deadbeat he don't love it family is that he hated his family right if I if I told my mama no I disagree disagree with you about the book this time I live my life this is another he gonna be like man hey he was disrespectful to his mama his mama said this that nothing that's how people gonna look at you oh you already know that so he's telling them any man who ain't willing to hate in that sense right not truly hey because you know I'm saying we're not called to hate nobody right but any man who who does not hate his mother his father his children the book say right he said you're not worthy to be his disciple you can't be called his disciple so now that becomes a challenge this is a long list of things and read it again the list that he gave us any man come to me and hate not his father and mother and wife and children and brother and sisters yay in his own life also he cannot be my disciple so now when you look at this from Paul's advice if a person that you can't choose to be born without brothers and sisters right but if a person was an only child guess what this list becomes a little bit easier I don't have to worry about a brother and sister now right if I've already lost my parents God forbid right and I'm an only child now this list becomes a little bit easier because I don't have to worry about turning away from my mom my dad or and I don't have a brother and sister right I can't necessarily control those though but the next two you can control you can control the wife and you can control the children right you can control whether you have a wife and whether you have children that's all within your realm all within your decision right and so that's why Paul says listen of this list of things that the most high goddess requiring you to turn away from right he requires it if it comes down to it and there's a choice between your family and me talking about y'all uh yeah if that's the choice he requires you to turn away from these things so he's like man in this list if you remain single you shaving stuff off of the list so since the Pamela was asking what does hate here mean and it's basically like saying um like to to to denounce right so when the Messiah say he who loves his mother more than me is not worthy of me your father more to me it's basically saying that like if you're not willing to like separate from everything you've ever known in love for the most high is what he's saying he's not saying literally hate like I hate you because you know we can't hate nobody tell us to love our brother and love our enemies and stuff like that he's basically saying if these people are more important to you than me you can't be my disciple you know I mean so just like we were saying when we started turning to the faith like sister Christmas she was talking about her mom her mom is in all these other things and sister Chris turned away and then her mom and them had a disagreement but sister Chris don't didn't really wasn't really rocking with what her mom raised her in same thing with us like we we grew up Christianity in Christianity and uh my mom and my uh aunties and family they kind of they bashed me for a while when I started to really get into it you know economy so at that point I didn't like we didn't fold and say okay Mom you right right just let me my mom taught me this so this must be true it's like no you got to choose the most high over everybody so he's not saying literally hate he's just saying if you choose these people over me you you can't be my disciple because like brother Phil said they're gonna hate you anyway they're gonna hate you they're gonna talk bad about you and if that's what you care about then you can't be my disciple because he told his disciples in another place remember if the world hates you they hated me first so you gonna follow me it's like a servant ain't better than his master so if you go if you willing to follow me just get prepared be prepared that the whole world hate you including your family right and if you don't hate if you don't have that type of love for me to where they look at you and hate you then you can't be Microsoft so he's not saying literally hate them because we know we don't we're not supposed we're not called to hate nobody yeah we're gonna read it a little bit later but um you know it's plenty of places in the book that says you can't hate your brother right so um but but what he's saying here again just like brother T said is is he's talking about the world is going to see you as hating them because that's how the world is going to paint you and you have to be okay with that right so anybody who don't hate it brother in other words the world depicts it as oh I leave my family I'm leaving everybody behind as the world depicts it if you not okay with that for the sake of getting closer to the most high God you don't even don't even try to be my disciple you know what I'm saying you barking down the wrong darn tree right right you'd barking down the wrong tree you're not even ready for it so Paul is just trying to make that process easier he's saying listen it's about to get tight that's how Paul looking at it it's about to get real tough when I say tight I reason why I say that because the pastor gets narrow right so it's going it's gonna get real tight right it's gonna be hard to do this thing it ain't gonna be a lot of room for mistakes and a lot of room for air listen the less baggage you carrying the easier it's gonna be to move right so he's saying look Paul's saying that's my advice right the less baggage you carrying the easier it's going to be to move but that's not just from Paul how would Paul get that idea right Paul no Paul knows our law and that's what our law taught us right it taught us if we uh go to uh Deuteronomy chapter 24. foreign give me verse 7. I might want to start from the beginning tell me where I want to start I want verse 7 though so tell me if I want just verse 7 or if I want to start a little bit higher okay hold on it's Deuteronomy chapter 20. we're going to look at chapter 20 and kind of figure out where we're going to start here we'll start at verse one all right so this is uh Deuteronomy chapter 20 verse 1. watch the book say when you go out to battle against your enemies and see horses and chariots and people more than you be not afraid of them for who or your God is with you which brought you a part of the land of Egypt and it's LP when you are come nigh unto the battle that the priest shall approach and speak unto the people and shall say unto them hero Israel you approach this day unto battle against your enemies let not your hearts faint fear not and do not tremble neither be ye terrified because of them for yahuwah your God is he that goes with you to fight for you against your enemies to save you yourself speaking to the people saying what man is there look what man is there that have built a new house if you built a new house listen to this it's wartime right I need you focused we got to go up against these boys and they got way more horses than us we gotta fight so now in the time of war the question is hey who just built a new house one of y'all should have just told tell us any man who leaves the house listen it's gonna be a hundredfold he had to incentivize you with a hundred fold because he knew that was a difficult decision in the same way now the law is telling us before we go to war let everybody know don't be afraid of these big old boys that's over there he boys with more horses matter of fact let me ask who just built a new house watch this and has not dedicated it let him go and return to his house unless he die in battle and another man dedicated right you ain't worthy of the war you got a new house you're not worthy of the war go ahead go back you mess around die out there then somebody else take your house you worried about your house when you're out there fighting you go you know I'm saying you go you build a new house take your butt back right what else this all righteous law by the way don't you look at these people law about how they draft people when they were World War One World War II and everything they start drafting all these people they didn't care about none of this stuff they start taking kids and just sending them to war taking newlyweds and sending them to war they didn't care about a lot of them didn't care they'd be even a little laws they had to protect them they had skirt around and still tried to get people right our book had our book had sympathy we looked at we said okay you just built the house no man go dedicate your house before you come out here and fight watch it keep going and what man is he that has planted planted a Vineyard and has not eaten of it let them also go and return them to his house unless he die in the battle and another man eat of it right he said man you just you just put in a Vineyard oh man you're gonna be out there focus on this wartime you know I'm saying get your butt back home go eat your Vineyard we'll find somebody else to fight all right keep going and what man is there that has betrothed the wife and has not taken her let him go and return it to his house does he die in the battle and another man take her right so he's saying listen these are the things that a person is focused on even in the war is that listen if you ain't had time to be with your white man you're gonna be thinking about that man go ahead and go the this is baggage and and that's where that's where Paul would have shaped if understand it from just from the book right our law already describes some of this stuff and kind of gives us a hint as to what's going on it's a marriage is a very serious thing right it's a it's something that that Paul's trying to tell you it's not a light thing you you have other cares he said I will have you not be uh have you not have carefulness so in other words I'm trying to give you less things to worry about is what his advice is my advice is giving you less things to worry about because there's a lot right it's a vow when you talk about marriage and there's laws around battle and I'm talking about not vows in in the Catholic tradition since we're to death do us part and you know I'm saying you stayed in front that I mean it's a it's a real vow right that marriage and we have laws that govern vows right Numbers chapter third let's go to Numbers Chapter 30 Numbers Chapter 30 tells us and gives us the laws around vowels right in all situations whether you marry whether you unmarry whether you're uh uh uh a maid inside of a um or a daughter inside of a Father's House whether you know I'm saying you're a husband of a wife and you disagree with a violence she made everything it covers it let's read a little bit of it and let's see if we can get an understanding no let me finish up to verse 8. oh my fault go ahead this is the this is uh Deuteronomy chapter 20 this is verse 8. and the officer shall speak further unto the people and they shall say what man is there that is fearful and faint-hearted let him go and return to his house lest his brother his heart faint as well as his heart right so all these scenarios he's telling you all this stuff can cause you to not be focused on the war itself and that's not helpful for the war at large right so Paul would have understood that and been able to shape like oh well you know what it's a similar concept the more stuff you have to worry about to be careful about when in time when he says careful it's talking about worrying the more stuff you have to be careful about the the more likely it is for you to be tempted away from doing what the most high God has you to do right that's the less energy that you could put towards the most high God so he's just saying in theory it's better if you were single and by yourself and you didn't have anything else to worry about because you can put a hundred percent of your focus towards the most high God and you ain't got to worry about calling home seeing if your kids is all right excuse seeing if your kids are all right if you're if the most high God said you know what split off I need you to do x y and z all right that's something to consider again it's something that I don't I don't really hear talked about almost ever right when people teach about marriage or people so I wanted to start with that I wanted to make sure we understood that but let's get into the vows right let's get into what it what what how serious the most high God takes a vow and how the book governs the vows and Moses spoke unto the heads of the tribes concerning the children of Israel saying this is the thing which the Lord has commanding if a man vowel vow unto the Lord uh we're number 30 by the way if a man vow a vow into the Lord or swear an oath to bind his soul with a bound he shall not break his word he shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth if a woman also vow avow unto the Lord and bind herself by a bond being in her father's house in her Youth and her father hear her vow and her bond wherewith she has bound her soul and her father shall hold his peace at her then all her vows shall stand and every bondware which she has bound her soul shall stand but right so that's that's that's how marriage comes about a man and a woman make a vow right and a vowel is toward a covenant right so you have a covenant which is an agreement a contract however you want to look at it right this is an agreement that we will be committed to each other right for the rest of our lives right it is it is to the rest of our lives right so it's as long as one is living and we'll get into that a little bit later but as long as one is living or as long as uh as long as both are living they are bound and committed to each other they're Bound by that vow that's why the law is using that word bound right so then our process is if a man wants a woman he goes to who your father he goes to the father why would he go to the father because she's in her father's house the law just tells us if she makes a vow and the father don't agree with it he can disannull it he can say nope not happening right so it's advantageous for the man keep flirting with his daughter I like her I think this the one I want to marry right I need to go to the father because legally according to our law I'm not talking about these people at all according to our law the father could say not happening I don't like this guy don't trust him he ain't never been around usually people come up and help you know help in my yard I got a vision for my daughter I know who I want her to be with I know the type of guy that's gonna do it right I didn't live the long time whatever the father's reason is I just don't maybe I don't like people from issachar you know what I'm saying like me pops is like I don't really mess with it's a car like that I'm my daughter came with Mary none of those bozos from issachar right whatever his reasons is he can call it all so then it was advantageous for the man to say I want to marry your daughter let me go to the father yo yo yo how you doing you know I mean nice to meet you I want you to know who I am what I'm about however they work out that situation they work it out right now he can go to the daughter and ask the daughter you know is this something that you like to do right now if the daughter is saying because a lot of people have it in their mind that we had arranged marriages right and I'm not I'm not gonna say we never had arranged marriages right but a lot of people having this concept that a woman just didn't have a choice at all in our marriage but that's not what you see in the book and we'll get into that too right but that's not what you see in our book so now a father who love his daughter right he said listen this man came up to me he said he want to marry you right if the if the woman is sitting there like no I don't want to marry him and he loved his daughter is he going to make her marry him no and he can't make a vow for her you don't see that in here he can disallow her bowel but he can't make a vow on her behalf right so the vow is between the daughter right the woman and the man but the man goes to the the reason why our process is such that the man goes to the father because the father has the authority to disannull it to call it off to cancel that vow that his daughter made right but the daughter herself has to make the vow the sister Sharon is asking what if the dad is just tripping yeah I told her it's like it don't matter just tripping like what I guess like just she want to marry him and daddy saying no you know what I mean oh yeah she got to get her she gotta leave her daddy house yeah so as long as she's under the protection of her dad right and the authority of her dad he has I say according to our law now if she leave his house you say you know what I ain't got nothing to do with it I'm done I don't want your protection and then she's she's running around like a harlot right not saying that she is a harlot but the heartless would be put out of the father's house right so then now they assume responsibility for their self which our community wasn't set up for that our community wasn't set up for a woman to assume a responsibility for herself our community was set up for a man to always have responsibility for a woman right a man always was taking care of a woman he was always in the position to to assist with making decisions there was always that protection for a woman right and so she could always lead a house and go about her you know go about her way and do whatever but Society wasn't set up like that so that comes with its own challenges so the incentive would be to stay with your father if your father is just a nut ball or whatever and he's not a righteous man that said nothing then you know she would have to go her own way and try to get it on their own this is uh or keep going let's see but if her father disallowed her in the day that he hears it not any of her vows or her Bonds were what she has bound her social stand and the Lord shall forgive her because her father disallowed her if she had all the husband when she vowed or uttered out of her lips where would she bound her soul and her husband heard it and held his peace at her in the day that he heard it then her vow shall stand and her Bonds were with the that wherewith she bound her soul shall stand but if her husband disallowed her on the day that he hear it then he shall make her vow which he vowed and all that she uttered with her lips where would she bound her soul of none effect and the Lord shall forgive her right so now she has uh once she has a husband now the husband has the similar Authority as the father had right where he he can disa disannone her her uh vow so if she make a vow he can hear me like no no no no she got let's say she out doing business and she making a business deal she's like listen I'll tell you what this is my company right I can sell you half of my company right this is my up we gonna run it together you have to handle all promotion if you buy half of it and I'ma hand all production right so I'm Gonna Keep I'm gonna keep everything going you gonna handle all promotion keep everything on social media it's all good she make a deal with this random person or this random company right but the husband hears it according to our law it would be no deals off it's not a good deal baby I understand that's your business I understand that's going not a good deal I'm not having it you can't go in to deal with this person they're trying to cheat you right it would be in the male's authority to make that call just say nope not happening however the books say if he heard it let's say if when they were signing the contract the husband was there and he said and she signed it and he was there when she signed it guess what that's it they accountable for it right now there's more here we're not gonna keep going but there's more here that even talk testifies of the Gospel in that same situation right this to me is the gospel when you talk get to the end of uh November uh November when you get to the end of number 30th you know what I'm saying it's describing the gospel itself but we won't get into that right now we'll definitely get into that at some other time um let's go back to uh First Corinthians chapter seven what verse we leave off on uh oh me too 32 it's First Corinthians chapter 7 verse 32 watch what the book say it's First Corinthians chapter 7 verse 32 watch the book say but I have what but I would have you without carefulness he that is unmarried cares for the things that belongs to the Lord how he may please the Lord but he that is married cares for the things that are of the world how he may please his wife there is difference also between a wife and a virgin the unmarried woman cares for the things of the Lord that she may be both that she may be holy both in body and in spirit but she that is married cares for the things of the world how she may please her husband in this I speak for your own Prophet not that I may cast a snare upon you but for that which is calmly and that you may attend upon the Lord without distraction all right so he's telling you he said I'm telling you this not that I'm snaring you in other words I'm not trying to trap you I'm not trying to make things difficult for you I'm not trying to I'm not trying to like I'm not tricking you right now you know I'm just telling you what you need to know that it is easier to serve the most high God to please God in my opinion that's how Paul's putting it right in my judgment right it is easier to serve the most high God and to please him without the extra baggage of having a wife right or without the extra bad you've having a husband right keep going but if any man think that he behaves himself uncommely towards his version if she passed the flower of her age and need to require let him do what he will he sinneth not let them marry right so listen he said listen if any man disagree with what I'm talking about he said Hey listen I wanna I wanna marry me a virgin he's like listen just make sure she old enough and do what you do right when you say the flower of our age you just saying make sure she you know I'm saying make sure she she grown make sure she an adult keep going nevertheless he that stands steadfast in his heart having no necessity but has power over his own will and has so decreed in his heart that he will keep his version does well so then he that gives her in marriage does well but he that gives her not in marriage does better the wife is bound by the law as long as her husband lives but if her husband be dead she is at Liberty to be married to whom she will only in the Lord all right so he's telling you that the wife is bound by the law as long as the husband lives right that's how marriage works marriage is lifelong it's a it's a lifelong commitment what verse is that 39. 39 keep going at 49. but she is happier if she's so abide after my judgment and I think that also that I have the spirit of God right so that's where you know kind of being facie he's like you know I'm saying I think I know what I'm talking about you know I'm saying I think the most I got actually called me to even write some of this stuff right so another thing when I was in the when I was in the assembly um I know they're saying she can only get married in the Lord but I think they might have overlooked the part where Paul was saying like this is my judgment so this is yeah so it's not a sin if she got married to an unbeliever or something like that you know it's just it'll just be difficult for her like Paul Wilson yeah it wouldn't be advised right because uh you know even Paul he he gave the same thing he said he said you know I'm saying should we be unequally yoked right now a lot of people use that for a lot of reasons or I just heard uh it was that thing yeah buddy yeah I just heard somebody talking about yeah I'm saying a rich man shouldn't be with a with a with a with a woman that don't got a lot of money because they're not equally yoked and vice versa you know I'm saying a woman you know I'm saying don't need no broke dude because they not unequally yoked yeah I'm saying it's like y'all choose whoever y'all want to choose but don't try to use the book to justify what y'all doing and how y'all move you know what I'm saying but yeah unequally yoked is talking about um or what we believe right if we looked at we ain't got to get it right now but if we looked at when he described that he was talking about you know I'm saying what what um I think it's like what Association does the does the temple yeah I have with idols right it wasn't talking about how much money or somebody had or anything like that it's just talking about if I'm devoting myself to God why would I be yoked in other words why would I be attached to somebody who is devoting themselves to some other God right it just wouldn't make sense um and we'll talk about unequally yoked in in that idea too remember a yoke is a device that like a ox or something will wear right so you wrap the uh the ox neck in this this wooden device or this device and the device would be attached to another Ox so then what you would do is you slap the ox on their butt and then they would start walking and let's say you was you was using them to turn the threshing floor they would start walking around in a circle and this device would keep them to where all the energies they use to walk it would cause them to go in a circle so it keeps them yoked and it keeps them in bondage to walk in this circle as opposed to just walking around freely so if you're unequally yoked and you have and you have one Ox that's really really big and the other one's small then things are not going to run right because one is going to be running faster than the other and they gonna get disjointed and all that so you would have to find odds that kind of are even right that way when they walk they walk and they have the same person the purpose they go into just about the same speed and things work out right right so that's what he just that's what unequally yoked is talking about but when he's actually using it he's using it talking about equal in the sense of what the belief is what the faith is um grab uh Romans chapter 7. it's Romans chapter seven give me verse one it's Romans chapter 7 verse 1. no ye not brethren for I speak to them that know the law how that the law has dominion over a man as long as he lives right so the law has dominion over a man as long as he lives when he says man he's talking about both male and female right so now the law has the dominion over a man as long as he lives watch how he brings it to the female for the woman which has a husband is bound by the law of her husband so as he lives but if the husband be dead she is loose from the law of the husband right so that that vow that we just talked about that vow is on to death right Paul is explaining the law to us and he's telling us look you know how the law work the law is in effect until a person dies right that's the end of the law all right death is the end of the law right so a law is in effect until a person dies he's saying listen the woman she's still legally married to the male no matter what happens until the man dies after he dies now she's loose that's where the the term Widow comes from right and as a widow now she can be remarried to another male she would not be able to be remarried to another male until she's out of divorce or until she becomes a widow so he's saying that law of the marriage obviously because we deal with widows he said that is only until she uh her husband dies right keep going so then if her if while her husband lives she'd be married to another man she shall be called an adulteress she'll be called a what an adulteress notice he didn't call her a fornicator right A lot of people get the idea that fornication covers adultery too and this that no are they the same words or they can be used interchangeably and I know when you look up your little Strong's Dictionary it'll tell you fornication adultery and tell you but you can't do that these are people that write these definitions that's not how you try to understand Hebrew words or Greek words or whatever words that we read in our book the way you understand them is you see how was the word translated consistently throughout the book not what somebody's opinion was about the word not what they read in some other book or how the word was used because we got all types of words right we got all types of words and we use them for all types of reasons we call it slain right if I tell you right now oh boy I was watching that movie that thing was fire right if I tell you that right now everybody knows what I'm talking about 700 years from now maybe they don't they get to looking up well the Oxford dictionary he says fire it comes from a flame something burning did he say that the movie theater burnt down right they were trying to read what I'm saying and they don't understand what I'm talking about whatever you can use some even more recent like cat you know I mean cat was like when we were young cap wasn't talking about lying I know what with cat and when these kids start saying cat like that's cap I'm not playing the world are they talking about that's cap what do you mean are you capping what we used to use cabin listen my my uncles used to use Captain for talking about somebody yeah when I was young he was like man they capping on you you know what I mean so it's like these words are you reuse and change and use for other reasons and all this stuff so even if I say all that to say that yes you will likely be able to find fornication used interchangeably with adultery in some other Greek book right you will not find it once in the scripture you just won't find it you won't find the word used for fornication used to describe adultery not once in our book right and the reason for that is because it's not interchangeable that's not that's not really I was he called her an adulterers for a reason that's important because we'll get to that later too but keep reading what verse is that actually that's verse three yeah all right uh read verse three for me again just so I can make sure we got it while her husband lives she'd be married to another man she shall be called an adult to rest but if her husband be dead she is free from that vow so that she is no adulteress though she be married to another man right so he's just telling it's legal for a wife to be married after her husband dies right so I I want to pause there and I want to kind of recap and kind of look at what we know so far marriage is the thing that the most high guys set up it's a good thing right a man who who find a good wife um will uh uh find favor with the most high God right that's book I know a lot of people abuse that thing and use it but it is book right this book the book says it's a good thing it's all there right so if we keep going right and we look at it we also see that maybe right maybe it's better for you to focus on God and not be married at all if you can handle it right it's not a sin to get married you ain't got to worry but it's less baggage you have more time more energy to focus on the most I got than to focus on on what pleases your spouse right so that's important also we learned that the vow itself is a heavy vow right the most high god holds you accountable to that vow and that vow is unto death right you will be bound by that vow until you die all right or until your spouse dies one or the other right so it's not a light thing to get married and maybe there's some benefits to not getting married right once we understand that now you have some decisions to make right as a single person right you got some decisions to make you say okay well you know I'm saying well how do I find a white could we make it deep right especially when you once you understand the gravity like when I talk to people that that's about to get married are they thinking about getting married always try to make sure they understand the gravity of it like this is a serious thing this is is a big deal this is a commitment it's a long you've never made a commitment like it right you've never made a commitment like it there's no way out once you enter the door you are in there you stuck close it behind you you never going back out that door again right that's what's happening you done that's it right it's a great thing it's beautiful and there's a lot of benefits to it but make sure you understand the vow right then people get deep I see it all the time and I'll talk to them they get deep they'll be like oh well I've been praying that God sent me my husband right I've been praying that that God just just find the good the white the right wife for me when we read in proverb did it say when God findeth your wife no no he said when a man finding he'll fight me I'm talking about that's your choice you go out and you pick who you want right and that just don't go for the man that go for the woman too right it ain't like just because a man come talk to you that you got to marry him and it ain't like a man gotta come talk to you or some special way to let you know this is a sign from God this is the one and you gotta wait for God to choose your husband the book tell us to choose what we want we got that freedom as long as we serve God then it just got to do with with choosing a wife and a husband anything as long as we serve God and we adhere into the what the Messiah says the whole world is at our we could do whatever we want as long as it doesn't offend what the Messiah says right that goes for everything every choice we make every color we want in our car our house in our clothes whatever it is it just cannot offend the principles that yahushua laid out for us right of course now if I want to go wear clothes that offends that principle then that's a sin right but I could choose whatever article of clothes I want outside of that I just can't offend it I can choose whatever woman whatever man as a woman right I won't it doesn't matter as long as it doesn't offend that is the important piece in the we have to get that through our head because then we can exhale a little bit we ain't got to be sitting here scared praying before every every date that we might have or anything like that we can sit here and be like you know what I'm gonna use what I want my judgment my experiences the things I've heard the advice I've gotten and that's how I'm going to determine the type of man or the type of woman I should marry right let's go to uh let's go to uh Numbers chapter 36 right and water brother is turning there Numbers chapter 36 talks to us about it's a follow-up conversation right so there's a man named uh loafer hat I think right and so it's a loafer had um I'm probably saying that wrong and when you get it to you help me out but was it I think that's it okay when's the lover had um when the Lo-Fi had uh uh died he had only daughters right the way our our uh culture work is we passed down Heritage through the mail right so if I'm a father my Heritage in other words my name who I am my lineage everything my my my my property goes to my children right all of my children right but my male children when they get married and they have children the the the property passes through them to the Next Generation whereas their wife it does not pass through them right so the lineage is always passed through the males of the family it's not passed through the females of the family so zalofa had only had daughters which meant that whatever male they married would assume all of the Lenny are all of the uh all of the Heritage that passed down to them so in other words I give all my possession to my daughter when I die right because I only have daughters my daughters have the possessions now they are called my daughters but when they get married they take on the inheritance of their husband so now the name my name is wiped off because I don't have anybody else that can pass down my Heritage so now I'm kind of erased from the future right because I only had daughters and I can't pass down my Heritage through my daughters my daughters are gonna inherit the inheritance of their husbands right so this was a follow-up conversation to a conversation that they had like hey what do we do in this situation for the father of our tribe that only had daughters and we want to continue his legacy right this is uh uh Numbers chapter 36 verse 1. and the chief fathers of the families of the children of Gilead the son of maker and Son of Manasseh of the families of the son of Joseph came near and spoke before Moses and before the princes the chief fathers of the children of Israel and they said the Lord commanded my Lord to give the land for an inheritance by lot to the children of Israel and my Lord was commanded by the Lord to give the inheritance of zelova had our brother unto his daughters and if they be married to any of the sons of the other tribes of the children of Israel then shall their inheritance be taken from their inheritance of our fathers and shall be put to the inheritance of the tribe where whether to wherein to they are received right so he said listen he like previously you gave advice or you gave a Commandment that these women could go get married but they keep thin hair or no these women would keep the inheritance from their father right normally right The Inheritance would go to sons and and then you could just say okay all the sons get the land because what they worried about is we about to go divide up this land this section of the territory belongs to the children of uh Joseph what was in Manasseh it was a Manasseh right yeah so the children of Manasseh right so now this is Manassas territory but this part of the territory let's say it's right smack in the middle of Manasseh right this part of the territory was given to the loafer hat the loafer had only had daughters so now his daughters owned that part of territory but then when somebody from Judah come and they say oh it's a little fat daughter I want to marry her guess what all of that territory is now owned by Judah so they looking like if this happens and if we continue to have daughters and not Sons technically the other tribes are going to be able to steal away all of our land so now in the middle of Manassa you're gonna have territory for Judah and they look like that don't really make sense so let's keep going let's see how the most high God kind of solve for this and they said the Lord commanded my Lord to give the land for an inheritance by a lot to the children of Israel and my Lord was commanded commanded by the Lord to give an inheritance of the loaf ahead our brother unto his daughters married to the sons of any other tribes of the children of Israel then shall their inheritance be taken from the inheritance of our fathers it shall be put in the inheritance of the tribe we're into they are received so it should be taken from the lot of our inheritance and when the Jubilee of the children of Israel shall be then shall their inheritance be put into the inheritance of the tribes where unto they are received so shall their inheritance be taken away from the inheritance of the tribes of our fathers and Moses commanded the children of Israel according to the word of the Lord saying the tribe of the sons of Joseph Joseph has said well this is the thing in which the Lord does command concerning the daughters of zelofa had saying let the Mary to whom they think best what let them marry to whom they think best listen the most high God is Not demanding that he chooses your husband these are women and he's telling the women Let The Women Marry whoever they think is best right they choose we choose this is not something like don't don't make it too deep for yourself don't put all this pressure on yourself that you know what God has to choose this God has to sin you choose you make the choice and you own that decision that is very important for your vow it is going to be very difficult for your vow if you don't take accountability and responsibility for your choice in who you dealt with once you accept that right once you accept and you say you know what this is who I like I love this person these are the reasons right he treated me nice and then after that he's been consistent with me and he's been a good leader and he interacts well with my family and we have the same values and we both want this many children and all these reasons right you think about them consciously put them at the Forefront of your head this these are the reasons I'm making this decision this is the reason I want to marry this man or this is the reason I want to marry this woman right be conscious of it understand and know that these are my reasons that I came up with that I am choosing right then after you do that you get married because there's gonna come a time where things are going to be challenged and you're going to find out some of the stuff that you thought you didn't assess it properly or it's some stuff that you just missed you ignored but it's easier to deal with that when you say you know what at the time this is everything that I considered I can I I really was thoughtful about it I just didn't have all the information but at the time that's the decision I made and I know why I made that decision at the time right then you just work through whatever you whatever you later found out but it's harder to make that decision when you feel like oh I was waiting on God and I really felt like God sent me this man because now accountability is off you and now you put it on God or you put it on the devil like God devil you tricked me into thinking that that was God that sent me this man and you can't solve for that there's no way to work through that now you convince yourself that you've been deceived by the devil in the marionist person well that's not true you weren't deceived by the devil in the mirror in this person you might have been deceived by that person through the devil but you wasn't deceived to marry that person you chose to marry based off of what situation whatever you observed whatever you liked at the time right take the vow seriously think it through understand why you're making that decision and never let go of that right because it's going to be a time where emotionally you're gonna feel different right but when you feel different emotionally that does not overweigh the The Vow the vowel has to work through emotion no matter how you feel love is not about how you feel right all the stuff about in love and all that is not about how you feel it's not about how you feel it's about the commitment it's about The Vow once you make a vow you say hey look this is how we gonna roll that's love when people talk about unconditional love that's a fake that's a fake idea first of all but if the closest thing to unconditional love is saying no matter what happens I'm committed to you right even if even if whatever whatever you want to put after that even if right even if whatever I am still committed to you and we still married and I'm still Bound by this vow that's the closest thing you're gonna get to unconditional love what would the world tell you that you're doing you settling you ain't got to put up with that you ain't gotta this that nothing the world is going to tell you all types of stuff right but remember these the same people that tell you they want unconditional love the world going to tell you they want unconditional love and then when you find yourself in a position where somebody is perceived as doing you wrong they gonna tell you you ain't got to put up with that because the world is a Hypocrites you can't use this stuff you got to look at our book the book it is not about this feeling this emotion it ain't about you're gonna be happy someday You're Gonna Be Sad some days no matter what it is with our when we first started our job you know the job that we have when we first started we said oh we were so happy some of us say oh that's the best job I've ever had and you still have good days and you still have bad days you see how days you want to go into work you still have days you don't want to go into work I love my I never had a job as good as the job I love my job I love going to work most of the time but there's still some days I don't want to go to work there's still some days I'll sit there you know like oh my goodness these people these people no oh my God I don't want to go to this meeting it that's just how it works that's how marriage is that's how anything is right you're gonna have good days gonna have bad day you're gonna have times where you emotionally feel great times when you don't emotionally feel great either way you have to be committed to The Vow that you make to your wife or to your husband right everything else set aside how do you deal with those challenges when you get there one thing the first thing you got to know is why why am I here in the first place oh because I chose I chose my husband God didn't choose my husband right Satan didn't choose my husband you know what I'm saying somebody else didn't choose my husband I made an agreement to choose my husband always had options even if you feel like he was in an arranged marriage and your father made you do it you still had options I could have like sister Sharon said I could have skate it right I could have left I could have took whatever the consequences were and I could have lived out on the street by myself without support but you know what I chose not to do that because at the time I felt that it would be harder to live on the street than it would be to live with this man own those decisions you have to hold you accountable yourself accountable it doesn't mean that it's fair doesn't mean that it's right but own the decision I had a choice and at the time given the options that I thought I had at the time this is what I chose once you acknowledge that and you take that it becomes easier to work through the rest of it but you don't need to fight against just imagination while you're doing this imagination to say no God sent this man into my life so you know it must have been we getting divorced but if he must have sent them in my life for a reason so I learned from that situation to go to my that's a lie that's a lie don't put that stuff on God because it'll make you when we put stuff on God we make the situation right no matter how wrong it is right well I know forth because you spent your whole the whole beginning of your marriage you spent it walking around talking about oh well you know no God sent her to me bro oh no no God I'm telling you God brought her to me and he told me this that and the other thing he told me I said I should marry this white then 10 years down the letter you get you get divorced and now you can't renege on all this stuff you said God told you you gotta hold on to that so now you got to be like well no no God Center you know what I'm saying but it wasn't the reason I thought I thought it was for us to be together for the rest of our life God sent her to teach me a few things teach me that some of these women do x y and z no no no no no don't move the goal post you chose it because that's what you like you is burning with lust you didn't want to Yums It Whatever the reason it you chose her and nothing's wrong with that decision you can choose whoever you want you just gotta deal with whatever they come with it whatever they come with it whatever you thought you was gonna get versus whatever reality what deal with that reality right deal with it keep moving take accountability for the decision go but it ain't on them it's on you it's on you made the choice that was the most high God said most of God said let the daughters there's a loafer had choose whoever they think is the best choose the best person for their situation right we don't got to keep reading there that's the only part I really wanted us to get to but just to seal up the story as the loafer had finished out that verse for me only to the family of the tribe of their father shall they marry so shall not the inheritance of the children of Israel removed from tribe to tribe for every one of the children of Israel shall keep himself to the inheritance of the tribe of the of his fathers all right grab uh Deuteronomy chapter 7 real quick because the next question is going to be well you know because you know we got a couple Hebrew Israelites we got some Hebrew Israelites in here you know we got a couple Hebrew Israelites that don't end up watching right so they gonna be looking like yeah well you know what I'm saying he just told them that they got to choose within the tribe he told them under this condition you got to choose within the tribe one you only have daughters you don't have I mean you only have sisters you don't have any brothers and your father is dead that's the condition to where you have to marry within your own tribe outside of that you marry whoever you think best and even within your tribe in that condition where you only have sisters or let me say it this way you don't have any brothers right you've never had any brothers that's what it has to be right you've never had any brothers and your father is no longer living in those conditions you got to marry who was in your side but still even within your tribe whoever you think best well now we don't know what tribe be from and don't be listening to them Hebrew Israelites that tell you all yeah if you Mexican you have the tribe you know I'm saying but they be called the Mexicans you know what I'm saying if you Hawaiian one of them had Hawaiians on there I was like y'all are crazy it's like what is wrong with y'all if you Hawaiian you of this drive yeah everybody gotta drive somehow right you cannot listen to these people they don't know what they're talking about do not do not accept that as the tribe there is going to be huh it's like reverse Christianity as they come as you are thee exactly it's exactly it's every everybody except a white uh the white racist guy they from a tribe everybody is Israel except for the white people you know man like stop that you just stopped the food why did you get away better try bro man stop the foolish that stuff is crazy right but yeah don't believe that stuff the most hot guys gonna send the prophets and they're gonna come and they gonna restore all things to us and they gonna tell us what tribes we we from just wait on the most high God for that yeah I'm fine with do your research right do your research if if you as an individual are able to make a connection all the way back to you know I'm saying all the way back to our land and say no I know for a fact that I'm from this tribe ain't nothing wrong with I ain't telling you that's wrong to do that I'm just saying don't believe these people who at large swash can just say oh yeah this all this people is from this tribe that's ridiculous that's ridiculous people can't come to you with well thought out research I'm not talking about oh the Jamaicans do this and Deuteronomy says that you know I'm saying the tribe is a car is going to do this and that looked like what the Jamaicans do so that must be the all the Jamaicans must be that that's poor that's Port that's poor that's poor three research that's poor understanding of the book that's cheap stuff don't go for that weirdo stuff that they people that's just linking stuff they're just dreaming and grasping that straw just just doing silly stuff to try to make people believe stuff right go with the books say if you got some research you're gonna do it in some real research and it tie you all the way back ain't nothing wrong with it you know what I'm saying if you got it you got the research and you believe the research that you're in then rock with it that's fine you know what I'm saying but just don't believe these boys are just you know I'm saying put their finger in our scale you know yeah I believe this is the case and then speak it to you like it's fat but Liars all right this is uh Deuteronomy chapter seven give me verse one when the Lord thy God shall bring thee into the land where you go to possess it and has cast out many nations before the the hitting he casts out many nations before the watch this the hitchhikes gurga shines the Amorite the Hittites the gergisites amorites the Canaanites the amorites and the parasites and the hibites and the jebusites Seven Nations greater how many Seven Nations it's Seven Nations that's all he told you about he didn't tell you 17 he didn't tell you all the white folks he didn't tell you nothing he said Seven Nations right watch this keep going and when thy Lord thy God shall deliver them before thee Thou shalt snite them and utterly destroy them Thou shalt make no Covenant with them nor shall you said don't make any Covenant with them in other words don't make no vows to these people and what else you'll show Mercy to uh no show Mercy unto them neither shall thou make marriages with them thy daughter shall not give unto his sons nor his daughters shall thou take unto thy Sons right so we stand either way don't give your sons I mean don't give their daughters to your sons and don't give your daughters to their sons either way don't make any marriages with them don't make any covenants with them right that is our law Seven Nations let's read them again what are the Seven Nations huh in the jebi side seven in the jebusites yeah put your finger up the next one is The Jeffy oh I'm counting wrong I thought I was already a seven the debut sites that's seven hey beautiful okay Daddy gotta work okay right so that's seven boom the jebusites that's it you didn't hear Edom in there did you no did you hear Moab no did you hear Ammon did you hear Syria nope he did right you didn't hear Egypt either didn't hear Egypt you didn't hear it wrong you didn't hear grease you didn't hear Italy well I guess that room right you don't have you didn't hear you didn't hear any of these you didn't hear the Spaniards you didn't hear the the Portuguese right you didn't hear any of these other nations in here the Europeans right you didn't hear any of these people he told you Seven Nations specifically and he told us to go wipe them out no you seem famished you know if we go through War if we go to war in a far away country and we want to marry some of those women the law told you how to do that also right yeah I told us how we could deal with people of a far away country yeah right so when people when the Hebrew Israelite the reason why I bring this up is because the Hebrew Israelite will have you believe that we are to marry Gentiles like we aren't to give our our children to Gentiles or have Gentiles marry our children right and that's not book you'll never read it in the book in fact if you look at yahushua himself yahushua comes from Ruth and Ruth was a moabite right we read it right Ruth ended up being with Boaz well Boaz is is David's great great great great grandfather right and David I mean yahushua is the son of David right and that was right after we got into the win Ruth is right when we got into the land so let's go to the other one this is uh this is uh Deuteronomy chapter 23. right there's another one that people misunderstand so we just talked about inheritance right inheritance comes from the father that applies to Gentiles too so if you got a gentile father right then you've inherited that whatever Gentile Nation he from if yo if yo if your father is from Greece right then that makes you agreesion in our mind when we look at it you as good as a Grecian I don't care if your mama a Hebrew you're as good as a Grecian right so now let's read Deuteronomy chapter 23 because it's another one they use to try to say we can't be with Gentiles and it was an example in uh I think it was Joshua when they were saying like you know the father of an Edomite that had the Hebrew mom and it wasn't they didn't really count them among you know themselves yeah yeah if you if you if your father ain't a Hebrew then technically you wouldn't be considered Us in Timothy also the New Testament I think his father was a Greek and his mom was a Hebrew yeah he said Deuteronomy what 23 verse 1. he that is wounded in the stones or has his privy member cut off shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord a bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord even to his 10th Generation shall he not enter into the congregation of the Lord right so what it's saying the first one he said wounded in the stones that means somebody who who you know I'm saying they genitals have been mutilated in some way they was deformed in some way um or their stuff was cut off somehow you know I'm saying he said they are not welcome into the congregation of yahuwah so what what's the congregation of yahuwah uh that time we've been a tabernacle of the Temple yeah whenever we all gather together to serve yahuwah right you're not welcome right so they would have these are people that would have to be on the outskirts with Leprosy like the people that are lepers they would have to be on the outskirts with them right so if you let's say you were born to form you know you know they used to talk to us about hermaphrodites I'm telling you people be thinking they have something they'd be like okay well you talk to gay people and they trying to tell you it's okay to be gay well what about a hermaphrodite where they're born born with both parts oh don't worry I gotta I got I got scripture for that you know what I'm saying like you think I ain't got an answer for it you don't say no I got an answer no no they wounded and they Stones they but got to go on the outskirts and they got to be a unit right now you just got to make yourself now you got to take what Paul said you don't say it better just be single right That's essential it don't matter it don't matter what you throw there's book for it the book is either gonna be it ain't no book for that so do whatever you want or the book is gonna be it's booked for that this is how you gotta handle it but no matter what you come up with this book for it all right keep going and ammonite or more bite shall not enter to the congregation of the Lord look it said the ammonite or a moabite shall not enter into the congregation of yahuwah okay so now let's take what we've we've gotten so far right we're saying so far that if you're wounded in the stones right you cannot enter into the congregation if you are an illegitimate bastard right illegitimate you cannot enter into the congregation right next more by ammonite cannot enter into the congregation watch what he says next though a bastard shall not enter to the congregation of the Lord even to his 10th Generation shall he not enter into the congregation of the Lord so he said a illegitimate ammonite or moabite cannot enter until the 10th Generation oh yeah the ammonite and the moabites shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord even to their 10th Generation so they not enter into the congregation of the Lord forever right so what he's trying to let you know is if you are someone born right he's talking about illegitimate if you were someone born of an ammonite father just because you got a Hebrew Mama even down to the tent so even the kids that come from that situation even down to the 10th if none of them have Hebrew fathers you cannot enter into the congregation it's what you got to be on the outskirts if you want to be around us if you want to walk and you want to obey our laws that's fine but you got to be on the outskirts you cannot go into the congregation right keep going because they met you not with bread and with water on in the way when you came forth out of Egypt and because they hired against you Balaam the son of BR of petor of Mesopotamia to Kirsty nevertheless the Lord thy God will not hearken unto Balaam but the Lord thy God turned the curse into a blessing unto thee because the Lord thy God loved thee Thou shalt not their peace nor their prosperity all the days forever you know these uh Hebrews are like they're gonna tell you that you know Edom is the white man and you gotta hate Edom and all this stuff watch this thou shall not abhor in Edomite for he is thy brother he said look this is law do not hate the Edomite he is your brother this is law all these law Keepers that believe there's Edomite stuff all of them is in there they ain't there about who Edom is and they in there about even if he was who they thought he was they in there about how they treat him right you shall not hate an Edomite he is thy brother what else thou shall not abhor an Egyptian because you were a stranger in his land the children that are begotten of them shall enter into the congregation of the Lord in their third generation right the children that are begotten of them shall enter in the third generation begotten is from a male when the book says begotten every time you see it it's always a male who begots you don't use that language for a woman a woman is they're going to say something like bear right but a male begets a a child right so it's talking it's talking you about when the father is of these nations just because you got a Hebrew mom it still doesn't make it appropriate for you to enter into the congregation it is not telling you that you can't marry these nations in fact he's he's telling you he's detailing out how you should handle when someone is married and have children through one of these nations he's telling you how to handle it right but he's not talking about a male to a woman and that's how you end up getting yahushua because we talked about the moabites and they say even to the 10th Generation right let's go to Matthew chapter one real quick real quick because there's so much more we got to go through it's Matthew chapter one and give me verse one the book of the generations of yahshua the Messiah the Son of David the son of Abraham Abraham begot Isaac and Isaac got Jacob and Jacob got Judah and his Brethren and Judith got feares and Zara and Tamar and fear has begot is from ishram and each run we got Aram and Aaron be got a minidab and a minute that begotten Nation Nation so Nation look so Nathan Nathan aminidad and Nasim is Moses time right those are the folks if you read numbers uh nation is the one who led Judah whenever Judah it was time to move he was the head of Judah right so that's Moses time it could be uh Nathan in in the law is the name is that what is it Nathan in the law or nature because I know from from the Old Testament to the New Testament like it's like pronounced like it's spelled different but it's the same name no not Nathan this was no this one's Nathan Nation so in the law it says Nation with the sh okay yeah and numbers and if you agree I think it's like numbers in the beginning the numbers is numbers 110 or maybe it's ten one maybe like that but um it's uh it's in the beginning of numbers it tell you how how Nation used to lead out the people of uh of uh Judah right and then they sum is with how it's spelled in the New Testament but it's talking about the same person yeah right and if you look at it it'll you would even in the genealogies they got the same father and everything so right there it's telling you that this is Moses time this is the time that Moses was walking around so let's take it from here and let's count how many generations until we get the root right if the if it was unlawful for a more bite right to come into uh the congregation and that means that we can't marry that within 10 Generations let's count how many generations until we get to root so we at Nathan right now let's keep going Salma and some mommy got boys a breakout and boys we got Obed of Ruth right so Obed came from roof that is only four generations yeah but wouldn't that wouldn't that like not really not because the fathers that he did it wouldn't count because the father of the Hebrew that's my point yeah right my point is the only reason this works is because it's only been four generations so had the if this was not talking about the fathers this would be unlawful that would do it what we would have to say is the the uh the Messiah and the King came from an unlawful land right so that's four generations from there and we got a more bike right but let's count until David right David became the king right so let's see how many generations until we get to David who was it who's a product of this moabite and Obed be God Jesse Yeah and Jesse be got David and that's be got that sixth generation to David still haven't reached our 10. and technically the count should have started with Ruth if if if what we read in in Deuteronomy 23 is referring to all Gentiles no matter if his mother or father then the count should have started with Ruth and you really only got two generations but I'm being liberal let's let's take it all the way back let's take it back as far as we can you can't get but six generations and Nation started before Moses gave that Deuteronomy law so it's really I'm being liberal with the cow I'm giving you more right there's no way to do it because when it says begot is talking about the father it's not talking about it's not talking about just any old marriage or anything else I say this to say choose who you want choose who you want the only law that we have against marrying someone outside our people is those Seven Nations right in uh sister Pam will ask the question how in the world we supposed to know if they have those Seven Nations two things we killed them all right the most high God killed them all right he wiped them all that was part of the prophecy that they would be judged and they'd be killed all but let's say some of them survived right some of them survive if you don't have any evidence to say that these people are connected to um yeah to the Canaanites that's fine now if that's your reasoning if you if your reasoning is I believe this person to be connected to a Canaanite then don't marry him I'm not telling you you have to marry these gentiles I'm not even telling you that you should marry a gentile you should marry your own people right I'm just telling you don't feel condemned because you married again don't let nobody tell you that you're doing something wrong because you married a gentile but y'all I'm well documented in my belief I'm saying I'm well documented without the you marry a darn I feel look most of the time especially in our captivity if if uh if a Hebrew man go get him a non-hebrew person most of the time I think he weak that's me personally that's my personal thought that's not this I think it's weak I think I think as a man who's in this captivity that deals with with the Judgment of our people I think it's our responsibility to lead about the women of our people right because our women gonna be dealing with curses that a lot of these other Gentiles ain't dealing with and yes it's going to be easy for you to go get you know I'm saying one of these people that's not under our curses right that's gonna be simple for you right but it's gonna be hard for somebody who's not of our people to understand the complexity to come behind a black woman that's going to be difficult for them they're not gonna get it right and that's going to leave our women unprotected out here but yeah I think that's Egypt because I think it ain't nothing wrong with it you do what you want to do get where you want maybe you listen we understand too we haven't been given the tools to lead about a woman then on top of that then we got to deal with the stress that comes with with with you know I'm saying being under the curse of ourselves then the stress of our woman being under the curse too that can be difficult so maybe I do need to tuck and hide and go get me a little you know I'm saying go get me something else right that's fine do whatever you got to do first thing is first thing first seek the kingdom after that I don't care who you choose there ain't none of my darn business I'm just giving you my opinion when it comes to the book choose who you choose right don't let none of these people make you feel guilty about who you choose make you feel wrong with who you choose right this is uh let's shoot through this stuff we got a lot we got to get to this is uh First Corinthians chapter one verse seven I mean First Corinthians chapter seven verse one right so we're going back to uh First Corinthians we starting kind of started you know I'm saying a little lower brother T made a good point so I wanted to I wanted to kind of go into First Corinthians 7 and uh started first I think we started verse 25 but let's go back up to verse one it's First Corinthians chapter seven verse one now concerning the things where he wrote unto me it is good for a man not to touch a woman look it's good for a man not to touch a woman watch this nevertheless to avoid fornication let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own husband now that's the same Paul when he talked about cheating on your husband what do you use adultery he said adultery didn't he now when he's talking about hey it's good for a man not to marry you not to touch a woman he said however to avoid fornication everybody should have their own wife right fornication adultery are not the same thing you could see him use a lot of people say that lie and again I know when you look up the Strong's definition and all that it does say adultery there I get it I know I understand what you're talking about I don't trust them you use it how it's been translated in the book look at how the book translated that's the only definition we're using around here keep going that the husband Render unto the wife do benevolence in likewise unto the wife likewise the wife unto the husband right when they say do benevolence is talking about you know I'm saying it's just saying be good to your good uh be good to your wife is what he's saying when they said Do Vanilla be good to your wife she's she's old it's your duty to be good for your wife is basically what it's saying and likewise the wife unto the husband the wife has not power of her own body but the husband and likewise also the husband has not power of his own body but the wife one another accept it be for consent for a time that ye may give yourself to fasting and prayer and come together again that Satan tempt you not for your inconsistency but I speak this by permission and not of commandment for I would that all men or even as I myself right so look he said look this I'm speaking about permission in other words I'm doing this of myself this is not a commandment he said if it were up to me I would have it that everybody was just like me in other words single right keep going but every man has his proper gift of God one after this manner and after and another after that I say therefore to the unmarried and widows it is good for them if they abide even as I but if they cannot contain let them marry word is better to marry than to burn right so what he's telling you here is although so we read already that that he would tell them to listen it's better to be by yourself in my opinion that's what that's what Paul was saying my opinion is better for you to be by myself that's my judgment on the situation right because you got less to worry about but then here he's telling you listen if it come down to it and the option is you burning in other words you committing for an occasion or being married I prefer for you to be married or not I prefer it's better for you to be married right because one is going to lead you to a sin so that's something else that we have to think about right if we say you know what Hey Brother Phil you know I'm happy that that you exposed to me that you know I'm saying it's actually a good thing not to be married but then you find yourself in a situation where you tempted on to burn it right in other words tempted on two going to hell because of fornication it would be better for you personally instead of dealing with the burn of lust it would be better for you to end up being married right if those are your choices right now if you can control yourself and you can have that self-control and and be by yourself and remain by yourself and you're comfortable with it then do what you got to do right sir the most high God just focus but if now you being single creates the same distraction or a similar distraction to where now you fighting with this lust all the time you can't focus on God doing that so you got to choose all this stuff is choices but you're free to make these choices right all this stuff is choices okay well listen if I get married I'm out to deal with the household I'm out to deal with my wife what makes her happy you know it kind of had his relationship build it I'm about to pay more money for for all of our living expenses whatever it might be right for from a white perspective I'm about to serve my husband I'm about to be accountable to him I'm about to do this I'm gonna have to take care of these kids and make sure that they raise I'm about whatever whatever roles right well you know I'm saying you can have whatever roles you want in your household as long as the male is the head right you could have whatever roles you want in your household but whatever roles that you say this is what I'm gonna have to deal with whereas if I'm single I'm just gonna have to be single I ain't got to worry about nothing else but you know what I will burn with lust I will burn with passion I will have all these things that I'm dealing with you have to weigh the cost of okay which one is better for me as an individual right that's the decision you got to make because Paul is laying both of them out for you right let's keep going or uh grab Ephesians for me Ephesians chapter 22. let's talk a little bit about the roles of a husband and a wife he says what this is Ephesians chapter 20 uh chapter 5 verse 22. why submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord for the husband is the head of that wife even as the Messiah is the head of the congregation and he is the savior of the body therefore as the congregation is subject to the Messiah so let the wives be to their own husbands and everything husbands love your wives even as the Messiah also loved the congregation and gave himself for it that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of Water by the word that he might present it to himself a glorious congregation not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing that should that that it should be holy and without blemish right so making this practical when it says be subject to your husband right what does that mean it means exactly what it sounds like it means right the husband should be able to make the final call even if that final call right is well you make the decision right don't don't make this stuff too deep it's it's saying exactly what it means right you have to just be subject to the husband so if your husband in particular says I do not want to deal with none of these bills and I don't want to deal with these kids I work all day long you make all the decisions of the house guess what there's nothing wrong with it as long as when your husband got a disagree with something and how it's being run it don't turn into imma do whatever I want to do I don't care what you say that's out of order right that's out of order but this idea sometimes we get the idea that the man is the one that got to work in the woman's the one that got to take care of the kids and stay at home and all that that's not that's not that's not our law that's not that's not something that's mandated if that's how you set up the household that's fine if the man say that's how I want my household to run right then he got to find a wife that's gonna be agreeable to that otherwise you're gonna have a long life you know that's gonna be a long life right but you find a wife that's agreeable to that if if she agreeable to that then y'all run it the way y'all running right if you got if you got a man that like listen you know I'm crippling my hands I can't do work I get you know I'm saying I get I get uh Social Security because you know I'm saying uh whatever whatever I can't even work and the woman do all the work if you go out she worked it's that another that's fine she make all the decisions in the house so look this is what we got to do this the next thing I do all the planning this is the house we should buy that's fine all the husband got to do is be like I want her to make those decisions that's cool that's he she is still being subject to him even if it looked like she has a a less stereotypical typical role the only problem is when there becomes a disagreement about decisions she has to be subject to the husband that's it if the husband say sign off on like listen you make all the decisions you do everything you want to do that's fine think about it like a business in the corporate world or something right I might run a whole department right and then I have a manager that's underneath me and she has a team that's underneath her right that manager I might tell her make whatever decision that you want to make I trust you do it make whatever decisions you want to make run the team however you want to run the team if anybody comes and say to you tell them I give you my approval keep making all the decisions I might even say you know what hey this is what my boss told me what do you think I should do and she might even tell me this is what you should do she might be making my decisions right that is not there's nothing wrong it happens every day in business every single day that you got a superior that somebody underneath them that they rely on them to make the decisions right but if there's ever a disagreement that Superior say oh hold on not this time this time I need you to do it this way right this time I need you to do it that way and that's how it has to play out when it comes to the husband and wife fault let whatever don't put the pressure on yourself for these stereotypical roles or the non-stereotypical roles have it work out for y'all y'all figure that out in the mail makes the final decision right keep going so um so the family was saying she see women bossing their husbands around and is that right and Sharon was like if he likes it that way right so it's up to the two on how they like to communicate and run their house right as long as one feels like they're not being disrespected or you know whatever rules they set up for each other then it's it's however however they want to however they want to run it really yeah it depends on who's saying bossing around yeah it's like it's like yeah all that stuff is subjective right so it's like if we on the outside looking in and we see that the woman is making decisions right and she's telling the husband hey this is what you should do here and he's agreeable to it ain't nothing wrong with that that's their business stay out of their business right that's a business and that's how I should run and that's how I go however if the husband is not agree the only issue is when the husband's not agreeable so no matter what the situation is no matter who making the decision no matter what's happening if the husband at any point is saying I don't think that my house should run this way I don't think my marriage should run this way right then the woman should be subject to that but if he's okay with it however is running if he's okay with it and that's all you want it to be and ain't got nothing to do it's only the arguments only the arguments only when there's a fight and that's not to and that's not to say that a couple shouldn't argue and fight does not say that that's wrong to argue and fight it just mean that through that discussion that y'all having through that fight that y'all having at the end of the day when it's all resolved the husband needs to be agreeable to what's happened right because he's the one that's going to be held accountable everything is the husband's fault everything is the husband fought as a wife let me look as a wife don't feel bad about blaming your husband for everything because it's his fault that's how that thing worked everything is the husband's fault that's what we walking into think about that before you get married that's how it works you are if you're the head you be in the head don't mean that oh I get to make the final call and it's supposed to run the way out one but I don't got to deal with no challenges everything just work out my way no that's not what being the head is about do a workout like that for him no no we sing we do and he got to pay for it he died for it that's what it mean to be a husband the thing ain't fair you think of a fair lady hey they nailed that man to a darn tree they ain't got nothing to do with being fair the thing got to do what's right who cares about what's fair y'all y'all gonna give us what's fair in the end right now we go what's right no matter what it feels like no matter what it looked like if the man is agreeable to it make that decision and let it run average there I need people business everybody all in everybody else bad and do it stay out of these people business however they run their house is fine the only time you should even think about getting involved is if you see a man say I don't like how this is happening and a woman is saying you know what I'm well within my rights as a Godly woman to do whatever I want because I think it's right no that's wrong that's wrong right to make sure the man is subject I mean make sure the woman is subject to the man that's it and however that looks and they household is their business and as a man who has that that Authority right it comes it comes with the idea that no matter what happens it's your fault it's your job to get your household in order no matter what type of wife you chose no matter what situation you find yourself in whatever no matter what mistake you made she made the kids made whoever you have to figure out your way to get your household in order period that is it that is your job no matter how I go and if that mean that man look when we got together you know what I'm saying she made all the decisions and you see that she steered y'all down some paths that just messed up that thing don't make no dark sense y'all darn in debt you know what I'm saying y'all said living out on the street based off her decision okay but you knew that's what type of woman she was when you met her she wanted to make the decision you did that now you got to switch it up now you got to convince her that you should be making the decisions and she been a strong woman in her whole life that's tough for her right but now you got to try to mold and be patient with your woman and string her along and do what you got to do to keep her buy-in so that you don't lose your what right and you gotta get the kids comfortable okay mommy ain't making all decision now maybe mama was a she was a disciplinarian and dad you know he chill man all he did his work all right all he did was sit in this room play the game I don't care whatever I ain't gonna use the stereotype he said he lays he sat in the room he played a game but he still ran out he said I don't know I'm okay with you making that decision she ran him into the thing Guess what at some point that's like okay I'm out I'm out to work because I can't get her respect unless I'm working so now I'ma have to work now I got to make sure I find something to make more money than her or I gotta convince her and say hey may who make money where it ain't that ain't it I gotta appeal to her senses to make sure that she understands this is how the house should whatever it takes you have to do it and you have to do it while maintaining righteousness and while leading her to righteousness and leading your family to righteousness right there is no excuse for the husband period right whatever it is that's what you got figure it out make it happen that thing look pretty when you look ahead right that thing look pretty when you look ahead when you look at all yeah the husband's the head it looked pretty oh listen man can abuse that thing all they want one thing you never hear them talk about is the accountability part of it you don't hear that talked about yeah man it's the head what that mean that means it's all his fault look at my job I I run my department right I'm ahead of I'm the head of the department that's what they call me all right head of the department right so I had I had the world ahead of my teams in the department right so in my department where the team is with my teams if it's any problem guess what they talking to me if my look if I got somebody on my team and my manager made the wrong decision right the manager underneath me she she made the wrong decision or he made the wrong decision right or one of the one of the people on their teams make their own decision and it gets caught in the audit guess who they call it me and they're gonna say hey so what happened here and so what I have to do is I have to go and look and I I told them not to do that I told them not to say that I told them not to work that case that way I told them that I wrote a whole I made sure a whole procedure was in place for them to follow and they didn't follow you know what guess who's accountable for that though me now it's my job to hold them accountable but you think my boss is worried about them being accountable my dog my boss is worried about how am I running the team to make sure that this don't happen again and that's how it is it's responsibility would be in the head it's all your fault no matter what even if it ain't it's your fault you should have made a better decision to prevent it from happening right you've got to have that mindset as a male right if you're gonna be a man and you're gonna be and you wanna and you want to walk in on the head of the household that's cool because you are that's book but now also walk in I gotta die for mine in other words not die for mine and like oh somebody's trying to kill my family I have to step in front of the bullet that's easy that's easy that's a no-brainer that's not the hard one the hard one is my wife won't listen to me my kids won't listen to me that's my fault that's the hard one my wife she got there she been watching social media and watching all these rappers and all this stuff and she just got this war perspective on life that's my fault right when you can do that that's how you understand being ahead don't even put yourself on that category talk about you want to be the head if you can't do that if you don't think you can walk into your marriage and do that don't even put yourself in that category sit your butt down listen to Paul be single you ain't ready for it's too much for you trust me trust me that woman gonna wear your butt out don't stress your butt out you ain't gonna be able to focus on you don't mess around leave God Kendrick worshiping stars and stuff worse than trees right because that's what happens these women are dry you darn crazy if you don't understand your responsibility can't nobody draw you crazy when you understand it you gotta understand that thing don't worry we'll be talking about in the chat we got questions even if the leader of the congregation what was that let me see I don't know I don't know if I understand but if you got questions go ahead and put it out there so I can try to catch him as we teach him right but that's what it means to be the head keep going I think we still in Ephesians five right future for the husband is the head of the wife that he might present himself a glorious congregation not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing but that it should be holy and without blemish so ought men of their wives of their own bodies he that loves his wife loves himself for no man ever yet hated his own flesh but nourishes and cherishes it even as the Lord the congregation for we are members of his body of his flesh and of his bones but this call shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife and they too shall be one flesh all right they too shall be one flesh right so we're gonna stop right now and we're gonna do a part two of this and we're gonna do the part two on um uh uh the you know I'm saying the day of the first day of the Feast of Tabernacles the week of Tabernacles um and then kind of dive into the other pieces of this right so we've talked a little bit about the responsibilities of a man we're going to talk a little bit about the responsibilities of a woman right we're going to look at some examples of women that do not fit the stereotypical so I I want to defend against this idea that the Bible tells you that a woman got to stay at home and gotta didn't know the Bible tells you a woman got to be subject to a man that's true right but that is not the limitation that the book tell you right the book gives you plenty of examples of women being the total opposite of what people imagine in their mind right and so I'm gonna we're gonna go through some of those examples and then we're going to talk about um we're gonna talk about men having multiple wives and what the book has to say about it whether it is righteous not righteous what's the better thing to do go into all the details and kind of dive into it we'll do that on part two we'll deal with divorce we'll do what the what what what how the law handles divorce how the law handles adultery how the law handles fornication the differences of the two um a whole lot you know I'm saying a whole lot we're going there's still a lot that we got to cover so we'll do that in part two are there any questions in the meantime [Laughter] was I making a meal to break our fast uh no not this time not this time maybe next time uh I don't know I don't know if it'll even be Thursday maybe it'll be uh maybe it'll be uh maybe to be Friday in the daytime but I don't know let me talk to brother T we'll talk I'll talk to brother T when we get off here um and then we'll we'll try to figure that out assistant Sharon it's food for sure on uh you know what I'm saying on the first day of Tabernacles oh I'm gonna send y'all something probably gonna be Friday um I'll send y'all some or or Thursday night maybe but I'll send y'all something and let y'all know once I uh once I get it all together appreciate your appreciation um yeah we should be playing all through our fast right so assistant Sharon Ashley do we need to pray out of the fast so uh we should be praying all through the fast um um and certainly at the end of the year absolutely give thanks to the most high God uh and if you if you want to pray together or be together when we pray um just let me know we can you know I'm saying I know you right down the street so we can we can figure that out but no we don't necessarily have to be together as we pray out the fast or to end the fast um but definitely should be praying all through the fastest use this time to connect with the most I got um get a deeper understanding the deep in connection uh and try to dig into the word and let him move you how you gonna move it's been good for me y'all I feel like it's just getting started I feel like too much time passed through honestly but uh it's been good to me honestly it's been good I appreciate y'all all right all right we'll see y'all next time man thank you